I'm getting married in TWO DAYS and my fiance doesn't know!?

A long time ago I was drunk and had a one-night-stand with a guy who I never saw again and I have always regretted it ever since. I have never told even a single person about this incident. When I first started dating my finance a couple years ago, I didn't want to tell him (I mean, I haven't told anyone ever and we had just started dating), so I said I was a virgin.

Fast forward to today. I still haven't gotten around to telling him about what happened and I'm freaking out! He's always saying things like how amazing it is that I was able to wait, and how proud I must be, and how lucky he is to be marrying a virgin. I feel so guilty about lying to him and to my parents but now I don't know what to do!

I'm worried that if I tell him the truth he might call off the wedding - which is in two days! And I REALLY want to marry him. I mean, if he called off the wedding that would be the most HORRIBLE thing I can possibly think of right now. And I mean, what if he told someone else? Soon eve

I think Cat Lover has the best answer here. Keep this to yourself, as it was a one-time mistake and didn't become a pattern in your life. I normally believe in coming clean and in not maintaining a lie, but I think your case is one of those special circumstances where not coming clean is the lesser of two evils. If you tell him, this will blow up into something bigger than "who wants to marry a virgin." He will now believe you have integrity issues as in "what else is she lying about?" Assuming virginity is the only thing you lied about, he won't believe that. I wouldn't risk wrecking your relationship over him thinking you have integrity issues across the board. While I don't think you should have lied to him, you lied out of embarrassment and a wish to maintain privacy about an embarrassing incident, as opposed to trying to deceive for nefarious purposes.

In the unlikely event he finds out, you could say that you considered yourself a virgin after that unfortunate drunken incident b/c although it wasn't legally a rape, you were under the influence and so never fully consented to the act.

It's too late to tell him and there is no useful purpose to be served by doing so--so don't. I am usually a believer in total honesty, but nothing good can come of it in this situation. It doesn't reflect on your character, the depth of your love for your fiance, or your faithfulness. It was a drunken mistake; let it go.

the only thing i can say is follow your heart, if you believe you should tell him, then tell him. if you don't think it's a good idea, the i hate to say it, but don't. as long as your not pregnant by another man and he's thinking the baby is his, and you don't take him onto a show like murry, then i don't think it could be too bad.

but i will say once again, do what you believe is right. you might tell him one day, because it's one thing to lie, it's another thing to try and live a lie.