What would you do if this was your boyfriend?

I love my boyfriend. He is a really nice guy, he does his best to take care of me and he genuinely cares about me, or so I think. He has no goals, except to win his clan battles on XBOX 360's Call of Duty. He is 30 years old and he still lives with his parents. He told me when we first got together that when the last girl he was with broke up with him he attempted suicide. He works as a server at applebee's, even though several people have offered him better positions elsewhere. However he's not willing to do what's necessary to get those positions (work nights). We don't have that great of conversations. Usually he wants to talk about something that upset him during his day or some experience with drugs or video games but thought provoking conversation rarely takes place. I want to move my life in a forward direction and although I love him, I just don't know if that's enough.

He doesn't like to go out and I am only 21. I love going out, but he doesn't trust me so he doesn't like it when I go out. He gets on me about what I wear, who I talk to on the phone, etc, etc. He lives with his parents but insists that I spend every night with him especially when I'm going out so he can keep tabs on me. I feel like I am the only thing that he has going for him. I talk to him about getting goals and he tells me that he doesn't go to college because the economy is horrible, but he does nothing to make more money or change his current situation. I am not happy with his situation and while it is not mine to be happy with, I can't help but think that down the road he won't be a good father to any children we happen to have together and I won't be able to depend on him to help make our lives better.

Wanting more in life isn't a bad thing. Actually, it's very good. You deserve better. A 30 year old with no ambition in life will most probably never develop ambition to do anything worthwhile with his or her life.

I think tell him that you are tired of not getting anywhere in life, be honest with him. But if you see that it's best that you dump him, then do. Don't stick around someone like that for love, as it's not worth it.
What he shows is not love. This might sound harsh, but if he really loved you then he would have thought more of creating a future for you both.

Think about your future carefully, and if you don't see yourself dragging this skin of a man with you, then cut him loose. He'll most probably end up dragging you down if you want to move forwards and upwards.

Best of luck. :)

moving towards a positive direction might not include him...sorry.be honest do u want to spend the rest of ur days with that type of person?tell him that he needs to get his act together if he wants it to work.or if you love him enough then u should work with him and try to help him out.either way do what u think is best for the BOTH of you, ofcoarse keeping YOURSELF in mind