i need help me and my friend had a fight, i just dont know what to do.
Basically he stood me up yesterday (forgot we was ment to meet) so i was all upset and mad, but now hes all upset with me... we planned to meet today and he rings me saying he wasn't going to come because he had other stuff he needed to do, i of course got angry and upset over this as i been looking forward to it and well he just didn't care.
i basically called him up quite a few times, and i feel abit guilty for doing so but i dunno what to do.. leave him be until he contacts me and say sorry or me to let go, and forgive?
It really gotten to me as i don't feel very important, and basically he ignored all my calls and turned his phone off, i feel guilty but i know i havnt done anything wrong.
I just love having his friendship.
Help? advice needed Hi, I can understand how it feels to be ignored by a friend. This happens to many .
But, what your friend did was rude. I'm not telling that his choice of not coming to see you was rude, but ignoring your calls and switching his phone off !! Now that's rude enough! Don't forgive. He will repeat and it will become a habit!
He should obviously know what he did was wrong and feel for his mistake.
It is a small thing , but a suggestion is that you should not show "anyone" , that your desperate about anything.
Let him be as he is.... Don't contact him, but when he gets back to you, don't forget to show a bit of your mind. Don't be rude under any cost, It will make no difference doing Tit-For Tat ! Just react in an indirect way .
He should know you did not appreciate his behaviour. But if he says sorry and if that 'sorry' sounds really true, then tell him that it is okay because he is your friend , but tell him that if this same behaviour was shown by anyone else , you would not entertain such acts.
Its a small thing , but you must know why I'm telling you to react like this, You may or may not take this advice , but i've seen a lot and the best tip I can give you is that 'trim the bud at its very begining', that means don't entertain anything like avoiding or , you know what I mean ....Because , this is what leads to situations like , "my friend is totally ignoring me" and stuff....
This will happen only if you do two things , one, being very rude and two, not expressing your dislike is a polite way.
If you don't express what you think and just forgive without telling , the person may think that your cool with that type of behaviour and will obviously continue.
Anyways, I hope this helps you in future for anything.
Best Of LUCK
-An Unknown Friend. forget about it. everything will cool down. nobody wants to be taken for granted especially by a dear friend..so i understand how you feel and the reason why you were upset of the situation happened between u and ur friend.
infact you should be the one who's doing the things that your friend is doing to you.but there may be factors or possibilities why this friend of yours is trying to avoid or ignoring you:
1.it might be about something you have said.
...when we're upset/mad we tend to say unnecessary things that could hurt other's feelings.
2.your friend might be thinking that you don't understand his'her reasons.
...related to number 1.
3.maybe your so much inlove with the friendshp, that you want your world of friendship just rotate between u and him/her.
...too much attention is suffocating.
...look, i really don't know what happened and i don't know you guys personally so i am not in th eposition to give advice instead i'll make a suggetion as of what should i do if i were you.
if he/she ignores my calls...ill write him a letter telling her how i felt about the situation..the reason why i get upset and apologize if there is something wrong i've done.will tell him how i treasure the friendship and how i miss him.
if this friend of yours treasures and appreciates the friendship with you...he'she should've been calling you by the next minute...telling you your so dramatic,corny..whatever things and laugh about the situation and explain a little things and at the end....reconciliation!!! |
