Reality check, please, how bad is this?

My nephew's baptism was last weekend - somehow it got on our calendar for the 27th, not the 20th. The baptism is 3 hours away and my husband had to fly out for work the same afternoon, so he even made his travel arrangements out the the airport near the baptism. We RSVP'd we would be there and when I spoke to one of my brothers a couple of weeks ago I said I would be there. My whole family was looking forward to it and we have made all kinds of arrangements to be there.

So, how bad is it? I wrote to my brother and sister in law and babbled about how sorry I am. I'm in tears at this point.

Also, NO ONE called to find out if we were even alive! I don't interact with my family a whole lot because I have a lot of kids and we are very busy. No one lives near me. But still...I found out I missed it this morning when my mother called me. Am I wrong for feeling hurt that no one even called?

I should clarify - I take full responsibility for this mistake. My husband and I got it wrong. I feel horrible about this and badly for my brother and his wife that my family did not show up. When I say "how bad is this?" I mean "Will my brother and his wife forgive me and how hurt were they?"

Yeah, I have to wonder why no one bothered to call when I and my husband and my 3 kids did not show up....I think that was a little insensitive, but I don't think it is an excuse for my mistake (nor do I think I deserve it because mistakes happen)

Its not that bad, at least you wrote to them. But I would have really called. It sounds and looks better if you call and apologize. I'm sure your family is busy with other things too so I wouldn't jump to conclusions.

Aww that is sad!

Recap time.
YOU put it on the wrong day of the calandar.
This can happen but your way of dealing with YOUR fault is to weasel out of responsibility by saying 'somehow it got on the 27th'. As if the appointment sprouted legs and walked to the other date. It didn't. You put it there.
So you were a no-show.
And then you feel sorry for yourself because nobody called you.

Mistakes in dates and appointments happen. But don't turn the things on their head so you can feel sorry for yourself, and don't seek excuses to get mad at everyone who didn't call you when you did not show up.

Large family events are always confusing. First, cut everyone some slack. I imagine that people were just overwhelmed. I would say the same thing to someone who was slighted that you weren't there.

You know, my best friend in the world didn't invite me to his wedding because his new wife hates me. He did invite my daughter and called me to see if this was okay with me. My personal opinion is that the wedding isn't about me. It's about them. It ended up that my daughter didn't attend because my nephew who is in Iraq was home that weekend just before he shipped out.

Anyway, the baptism isn't about the family. It's about the baby. People should keep that in mind.