My fiancee and I are having our first arguments about decorating with his beer can collection? Any advice?

His collection contains over 5,000 beer cans. It's a hobby of his, and while I've never been fond of it, I love him dearly. We had planned to buy a house together with a basement for his cans. He fell in love with a house with no basement and convinced me he would only keep a few and put the rest in storage if we bought this house. We bought the house in April. Now he wants to decorate his entire office with them. I was willing to compromise and let him decorate one wall. He agreed weeks ago. Yesterday he called me and said he was going to go ahead and do what he wanted with that room and move forward with his plans. While I don't move in until Sept. after the wedding, it hurts my feelings. And we've never had one argument until this so I am heartbroken. He's 39. I'm 32. I'm afraid he's set in his bachelor ways and not used to compromising for anything. He feels he should have one room to himself. I understand. But more than one wall of beer cans is too much! Please help!!

I'm sorry, but I totally agree with fizzy Stuff. He needs his own space. He needs a room where he feels free to be a guy, and decorate it how he wants, and it's HIS room. You don't have to like it, you never even have to go in there. You are marrying him, not mothering him, and you are both going to need to learn how to compromise. You have the rest of the house to decorate any way you see fit...I'm sure you'll have a huge say in the furniture that goes in, the paint that goes on the walls, etc. Let him have his office. It's might be the only thing he sees that he can keep that will be HIS alone, and there is nothing wrong with that. It doesn't mean he loves you less, but it WILL show him how much you love and respect him if you just let him have it.

this is a common problem. men and women have very different ideas for looks good.
as long as you can close the door to his office when you entertain, let him have the office his way.

you do need to smack him in the head with a few of those beer cans and tell him he was wrong to agree to put them in the basement, then agree to only do one wall. if he keeps doing what ever he wants, this marriage will not work.

just leave him and his beer cans alone :(
There has to be a beer can office where he can be alone when you are not in the mood!

u both r going 2 want 2 put alittle of ur selves into this house....this is just his way of doing that