Family dilema help!?

my parents have never been happy that i am dating a black man so when they discovered i was pregnant with his child they cut me off , now im 2 weeks off of having him and they want back in and are being really nice buying the baby gifts and seem to be looking forward to seeing him, problem is my man isn't happy thinks they have no right to come back in especially after my mum was calling him racist names! she said she was angry at the time, it's causing major friction between my man and i, he thinks im a fool for talking to them after the way they treated us, what shud i do i love my man and my family even tho i was angry at them treating me like s***, he thinks they'l be nice for a while and then the racist comments will start again, i feel torn.

I was cut off also....my husband and I went threw this on both sides of our families... the minute or first son was born all those that had issues with us all the sudden wanted to be back in our lives....here is what we did no one was allowed to come to the hospital when the baby was born except for my husband ...for my side of the family we brought my son over to my parents house at there request...allowed them to hold him and all that without saying anything...when we got ready to leave ..I turned to my parents and said you need to know every thing you called my husband you have called your grandson because he is part of his dad..if you love your grandson then you will have to learn to except and respect his father no matter what color he is...if you can't let me know now and we will no longer be around you...if you remind them that every time they say something about your man they are also saying something about your baby it will hit home...Your man has every right to be pissed..I wouldn't except anything from them right now ... not until your parents can give your man a real heart felt apolige...and treat him with respect and disence that all people deserve...trust your parents need to understand that your baby isn't going to be just your race...chances are the baby will have more feature's like his dad than you...dad's gene's are dominant...it will get better you just have to really lay down the law to your parents ..and when and if your parents really apoligize...your man will come around..it is going to take time for him...I've been right where you are good luck....Momzilla

stand up for what you believe in.
if you believe they did something wrong tell them.
this way, you can show them that what they did isnt acceptable and puts them on a warning that if they do it again, you will cut them off completely.

Your parents owe an apology big time. They also need to be told they will be given one chance and one chance only. If they mess up again they loose the three of you from their lives forever.

Best of luck with the new baby!