Did Anyone Else Get Judged About Adopting A Child.....????

I am so hurt, because I don't have the support from my extended family.
My Husband & I have 4 children of our own (2 sets of twins -newborns & nearly 3yos son's). We have put forward a claim to adopt our Godson, who is in our custody.
Everyone feels the need to ask, if we are sure. If we didn't want to do this we WOULDN'T!!
I get phone calls from family members saying how, we should think about it some more, or it isn't a good idea, because he will never truly be apart of our family.
My Mother in-law actually told me this morning, she doesn't feel that she could ever love him, because he isn't ours. Being sick I told her a few things, I'd rather not repeat. Usually I get on fine with her.

I am sick of it. I thought it was our decision, but apparently everyone else around here knows better than us.
*rolling my eyes!!!*

I grew up in Foster Care, and my Husband & I have often talked about later in life becoming foster parents (when our children are older). Now listening to all my families BS I find myself self constantly second guess my decision.
Now I am torn on whether we are doing the right thing. Bringing him into this family could be worse than his own (well not quite, but if they keep moaning....)

Did anyone else have to put up with this?????
Any advise on dealing with everyone and their unwanted opinions??
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From what I remember his parents A) dont want him and b) its a abusive home right ?
And in that case i completely think that this child who has been with you anyway should be adopted by you.
But I'd be telling these sticky beaks to get their nose out, and that if they can not love your adopted child as they do your biological child then they can just get used to the idea of not seeing their biological grandchildren either
That You do not need this crap, that you do not need to think about it 'anymore' that you have had this child anyway and the child is in a abusive situation and this IS the right thing to do for the child..

I mean geeze with 2 sets of newborns and 2 3 year old twins you are hardly doing it for YOU are you !.

IT IS YOUR Decision and just tell them that and that they need to respect it and get with the programme or GET OUT

wow...as much as i DESPISE adoption (as a grown adoptee), it sounds to me like you would be exceptionally in-tune with this child's needs as an adoptee. seriously.

this is huge, and i think you already are way in "the know" about how to handle this situation. i wish you tons of luck in this. please go with your heart.

I am so sorry your family is being so unsupportive. This is not just some child from the orphanage this is your godson. Of course this attitude is bad even if this boy was some foster child you all decided to adopt. It is not for your in laws or anyone else to dictate how you and your spouse choose to add on to your family.

If I was in this situation and had family that could not be loving and accepting of all the kids regardless how they came into the family. Then those family memebers would not be around any of the children. I wouldn鈥檛 want that type of attitude of we can only love people who are biological related to us to be around my kids.