Can you relate?i have a question?

okay so my husband has an older brother and he lives in italy and sometimes he would call him(his brother) and he would ask him to go over there and he never mentioned me and even when we were engaged he like never gave me importance like he never told him like straight forward like his mom had to and like his brother is older and has like a crazy life not married party drink party and i feel like hes kinda like scared or he feels still a little boy his brother calls telling hi about this great life and all my husband says is like damn wow lucky i feel like thats what he wants and he never mentions our life like hes ashamed and his brother is coming and he asked him to go somewhere kinda far and we live togheter and are having a baby i feel mad and its like his brother influences him alot by what i see. and it upsets me like lets go and its an emidiate okay its frustrating what do i do? thats his brother but im his wife.

You and hubby need to sit down and have a very serious conversation. You need to find out why your hubby is keeping you a secret to his older brother. Is he intimidated by him? Is he afraid his brother will not accept you? This is a communication problem that you really need to discuss before brother arrives.

Sorry, I couldn't relate. =(
But I give you props; that was the hardest run-on sentence I have EVER attempted to understand.

The only way I can relate is...me and my husband, our extended and close families both know about us, yet when it comes to my husbands family....if they come around....I hardly exist! He is one of those who is extremely close to his family and nothing wrong with that, but its annoying sometimes. They stayed with us for a week last week...and I felt like I pretty much had noone on my side if I ever had a complaint against them because they were always around! My husband would take up for them, but as soon as they left would take up for me.

I think thats just how men are, and in your situation it sounds like his brother has a completely different lifestyle and maybe he knows his brother doesnt want to hear about marriage etc so he just doesnt tell him. Or in another situation maybe he would fear his brother liking you too much, Ive heard of things like that happen before with friends.

But please talk to your husband about this, communication is so important, let your concerns about this be known to your husband, and honestly (im a little pushy) i would demand to be able to spend time with his brother and get to know him...worth a shot!