Should I call the woman he is cheating on me with?

I had an awful feeling about my BF. I snooped around a bit and found out he is cheating on me...it ate me up inside that I could not confront him. So, I approached him to ask if he was interested in seeing other people. He said no, and put me in the hot seat asking why I would ask that...basically, he is now accusing me of being with someone. I have the number of he woman he has been "romancing"...she does not seem to know he is in a relationship (he met her online). Likewise, I have thought of calling her. Not to fight, but for closure, at least this would take the blame off me. What would you do? I know snooping was wrong, but please do not focus on that...I have to figure out how to move forward from here.

Contacting the other woman can only make you look pathetic. Gather up what's left of your self respect and dignity and walk away. If you're having a really tough time, consider talking to a therapist to help put things in perspective.

Good luck, sweetie.

I would leave him and move on. If you ring the woman you will just be revengeful and wrong. Good luck. Move on, you deserve better.

this girl has no idea you need to confront him again and tell him you know and dump the loser

leave him alone. I'd break up with him and leave the other girl alone, she will think your crazy and you will look desperate. dump him, if you know.

I say call her.

leave him, hes not good for u dont even bother with her, just get up and leave

Call her and talk it out, and if you know for sure that your BF is cheating on you than dump him.

Personally, I would want someone to call me and tell me. I wouldn't want to be walking around feeling like an idiot not knowing that the guy I'm dating is seeing someone else.

Good luck, and FORGET ABOUT HIM, what a loser!

I really think you should leave her out of it. If you have a problem you should confront him and only him. When your relationship is over with him then you might want to think about calling her and letting her know what's up. She shouldn't get played too but you should focus on your relationship before you call her.

You need to worry about him first and then her. Calling her for closure is just going to make you angries and more likely to lash out. You snooped, found something you should not have, and now have to consider kicking him to the curb. Talking will not do a damn thing. Move on and forget about the skank.

Talk to him about it, if you and her get into it you will come off as bitchy. Just keep it between you and him. Less collateral damage the better.

no your just easer than her your like a slug hanging on to him

don't .women should stick together. its more his fault than hers

instinct would want me to call her and find out the truth. however good sense would say just walk away. if confronting him face to face is hard, write a farewell letter and explain what you found and why your leaving. dont confront him in the letter but instead go for the guilt trip.

dont call the girls hes cheating withh!! dump his dumbass!! lol. but if he cheats on u once, who's to say he wont do it again?? u deserve better. kick him 2 da curb!!

Definitely call her. Blow it up for him, and leave him, all alone. That is, unless he has more than one gf on the side. EIther way you dont need that mess. How long before his cheating brings you home herpes ?

the best thing for you to do is leave him. If a man cheats, hes no good for you. Dont waste your time just leave her alone and definatly leave him. He doesnt deserve you

Well first thing first, I don't necessarily think that snooping is wrong, I believe if your gut tells you to look, you look and if there is nothing to hide, then nothing will be found, I personally don't mind if my husband snoops until the cows comes home cause I know that I don't have anything to hide,and if that makes him more comfortable then so be it. Now going forward I don't know why you would have anything to say to the other woman, she doesn't have any real obligation to you even if she knows your in relationship with him. He is the only one you need to address,I would confront him, give him a chance to explain and then go from there. If he uses the fact that I snooped to distract from the real issue I would drop him like a hot potato. Because personally I don't want to be the only in my relationship that is acting like I am committed.

Confront him about it and then break up with him and leave her alone... If she knows nothing of you, then she actually has nothing to do with it. Let him be her problem.

leave him. you deserve better. call the women for your own closure if youd like. just tell her that he is a cheating on you by romancing her. and if hes willing to do that to you then he will to her also.

SOME ONE say the one in the relationship is worng and stop attacking people these men approach.....
She might not know about you, but he does....

Im the other woman and i didn't know he had a wife when this thing started......He knew he had a wife.....

i was recently in the other girl's shoes and got a call from a dude's girlfriend. she and i are friends now.

call her, let her know how you feel....keep in mind that it's not her fault or yours. set him up for a bust, and then his real identity and feelings will be displayed

Don't be mad at the other woman, be mad at him. Yea snooping is wrong, but cheating is worse. cause n effect.

I would say call her. My sister found out the same thing, called the girl and the girl broke it off with my sister boyfriend. The girl was really nice when my sister called her so unless this girl your boy was cheating on you with is a jerk you shouldn't be worried about her being a *****. Good luck!

no, it will all work itself out eventually.

Give her a call so she knows what she is up against. .

Just leave because she is clueless to what is going on and it would hurt her also to know that he was untrue to begin with but she will have to find that out on her own. Some women don't take too much to the other woman calling them to help them see the man is no good and they often retaliate.Just let it go and tell him "I know about her so I'm gone". He'll realize he was wrong.

call her and say, "are you dating (name of guy ur dating) and then if she sez yes, you say thank u and hang up. brkup with ur boyfriend the next day and say it was because it wasn't working out between u two.

Don't bother calling her because she does not know. You can call her and she probably will stop seeing your boyfriend. But do you really think it will stop him from looking for another girl?

Face him and ask him why? It probably hurts a lot now, but it is better for you to know now, one way or another. Closure is with him not her.

I was in the exact same boat. I didn't have her number, but I did have her email address. And yes I did email her and tell her the whole truth. She confided in me and told me everything. I printed out all of our emails and presented them to him. Then I kicked his *** out. Go for it and good luck!

Sure call the woman. Ask her whatever you want and tell her whatever you want. Then leave the guy if you don't want to be with him anymore and don't want to feel the pain you are feeling from being emotionally violated. Good Luck and Take Care. I know this must be very difficult to deal with but I am sure you are capable. If you fell in love with him then you can fall out of love with him.