My ex husband was abusive and is trying to get me in trouble with "housing",for no reason except he's

extremely jealous of my new life and happiness. He called "housing" and said I was living with he himself!!! I am a Christian lady and a law abiding citizen and trying to go to school this month and am finally feeling good in life after years of his abuse. I went to the police and they said unless someone who will come forward,like "housing",and say he called and "tipped" them about me and my so called dishonesty,that there's nothing they can do. I want to protect myself legally...and it's scary b/c bad things have happened to good,innocent people. I already sent them a copy of my divorce decree and a letter saying what I said here about his abuse and games. Its been since 2004 that we've been divorced! His family is very mailicious when they want to be...they "know" people,they say,and try to get people in trouble. I know I have the truth and God on my side,but it's still scary and i'm at the mercy of the housing authority if they believe or not. This is important to me & I fear him!

Abusive people tend to be highly manipulative and convincing liars. They will do anything to punish you for taking away their perceived control. You're moving ahead in your life and it is a threat to his sense of control.

As far as his family, this man had to learn his abusive behavior somewhere. The less that these people know about you the less they can harm you or your reputation. I'd avoid contact with them if possible.

Do you have a restraining order? Is it possible for you to get one? If you have a restraining order then he cannot say that he lives with you without being in violation of said restraining order. Conduct an online search for a domestic violence advocacy group in your area and see if they can refer you to someone to talk about the issue.

The best advice is to document everything. Abuse is a pattern of behavior rather than a single incident. Document every conversation with your ex and members of his family (in my state it is legal to tape record phone calls...check your local laws). Keep every letter and print out every email. Keep every single thing. Eventually he will do something stupid that proves he's lying or someone will make a threat that you can use to get your restraining order (if you don't already have one).

I have a saying: give an abusive man enough rope and he will hang himself, eventually.

You're taking control of your own life. He is not entitled to it at all. You decide if and when you will speak to him. He has no say at all. Taking care of yourself is now your highest priority.

Take care and congratulations for moving ahead in your life.

get a restraining order that keeps him away from you and copy all involved, good luck

Give the housing authority copies of:

Divorce
Restraining orders
If you have a recent police report showing you are trying to avoid him or no longer want anything to do with him...

These will speak volumes to the manager. Once they become familiar with you and your circumstances they will treat your situation differently.

im on HIS side

I'm sorry, but i really get the feeling that your not telling us the whole story, seems like he's doing everything wrong, and your doing everything right, and he's still getting away with it.

Doesn't seem right to me, but i suggest you give the housing dudes a copy of your divorce decree and any restraining orders you have against him.

As for his family "knowing" people, they are probably just blowing smoke, and trying to get you scared.

BTW, God ain't on no one's side, he's impartial.