Guys help... seriously!! I gave him a handjob on the first night did I ruin it ...???

Im turning into a nervous wreck. I met this guy last year & at first he was in hot pursuit but the timing never worked out. Fast forward now we just had our first night together. the whole night he was sweet to me and he kissed and touched me in such an intimate way. there was no sex but it did get a little heated so I gave him a handjob. He was the one to initiate it he kept guiding my hand down his pants. I KNOW he really enjoyed it he kept telling me I was the best. I was real w/him and told him it was too soon for sex but I wanted him to be satisfied I wasn't trying to tease him. I never took off my clothes and he never touched down there. The last thing he did the next morning was kiss me on the cheek and said he would call me "later." My dilemma is its been a week and he hasn't called. Before this we didn't talk all the time maybe once a month. I feel im getting mixed signals and im scared b\c I actually like this guy and that doesn't happen often. so why hasn't he called is he just not that into me???

Of course you ruined it. We like to chase girls. We don't like it when girls just do what we want...because it's not really what we want!

CUZ SHAWTY HE (ONE NIGHT STANNED YO AZZ)
you gave him a hand job? he prolly got a girl or da side or anything. usually stuff like dat dont go down on da first nite specially if yall serious bout yall relatonship.

Boy I know you got a girl
And you know I've got a man
So lets both respect the game
And have a one night stand


You really like her, you might wife her. I don鈥檛 like her, so I one night her

I think you blew it.

Why don't you call him?

Not ladylike...

He will call.

You should have givin him a b l o w job, he would have called you the next day. Tell him you're ready for everything the next time you see him.

He got exactly what he wanted, why would he call you?

You need to move on. Guys like that aren't worth it. Sometimes they try and use girls and it isn't nice at all. You need to move on and be more careful next time.

You might have blown it...

Why not try calling him? Ask him if he'd like to have lunch/dinner together or something and maybe you could have a night again.

Ya it could be

maybe he is busy or he wants you to call him or he is waiting until the next time he wants a hand job and when he wants that he will call and come around until then he may not call at all unless like i said he is to busy to call or wants you to call him. good luck.

Umm maybe try calling him once ? After that give up.... he just a horny bastard.

Yeah probably not good. You shouldn't let it go quite so far on a first date. Sends a signal to a guy that you are a good time and not girlfriend material.

baby, i think he used u to get a handjob. never trust guys no matter how sweet they seem. he just can't be trusted. who knws how many other girls hes been with and seeing at the momen. i don't think he's into u at all.

Sorry pet - I don't think you'll be hearing from himunless he wants to use you to satisfy himself in the future. You'll have to try and change the way to behave with a guy. Good luck.

sorry all u can do is wait, i hope he doesnt hurt u and wish u all the best.

You probably should have waited on the hand job.
But if he was calling you once a month..maybe he is gonna continue to keep that schedule.

Quit stressing. He isn't into you, and it was before the handjob, so don't think you did anything wrong. Take it as a lesson learned. If he ends up calling you, don't take his calls. You have a life and don't need to sit around waiting for him to give you a call when he is "in need." If he wanted you, the timing would really have nothing to do with it. He's a jerk and not worth any more of your time. Good luck!

he probably don't wanna seem too eger.

he probably don't wanna see u no more but i don't think dats it cuz he would've left right afta u said dat u thought i was too early 4 sex...

he probably think u was one of them fast going chicks u neva shouldve gave him dat hand job so early

he's probably just busy

there could be a million n 1 reasons

hi there,

He probably thinks your easy!! he got what he wanted! From past experiences and my friend experiences, guys usually don't call after they basically got want they wanted or when the girl doesn't play hard to get!! If he does call it's basically a " hand job call"

yea i've heard this question a million times. kudos for you for not having sex, really but it sounds to me like he may think you're too easy for him and trust me that's a big turn off for most guys. personally, i know you're not going to beleive me but i would never ask a girl to do that for me on the first night. don't get me wrong i would want to get intimate with and do the whole kiss thing but never force her to do something she didn't want to. women should be respected and it looks as if he got what he wanted, now you're pretty much wanting more. who know's maybe he's busy but you never can tell. Good luck

You sound pretty young still, and at that age boys are stupid (hell, they're always stupid). I don't know whether he likes you or not, but if he doesn't its definitely not because of the quality of the hand job, and probably not because you messed anything up. I know it sounds corny and hard to do but hey if he doesn't like you, why would you wanna be with someone like that? If he does things usually work themselves out. If you grow to impatient just try a casual text or email saying whats up. tell him you had a good time. It might even be that he's the one who's nervou about talking to you! :)

It sounds to me that you did. If he was guiding your hand down there then he was really after one thing that night and when you didnt give it to him he probably lost interest. He may call you and hang out with you later but chances are he had been getting it somewhere else. Who knows maybe you didnt but it sure sounds like it to me. Sorry..

ok well the guy probably doesnt like u that much just enough to get into ur pants and then leave you srry to be all mean about it and stuff but incase u havent noticed a lot of guys r like that i am not however but whatever i think he jus has lust for you he doesnt really like u or want to be with you im srry for sounding harse but its what i seems like to me and yea then theres the other side u said only talked like once a month well then he may not call for up to 2 weeks right i mean u said urself once a month

Maybe u were a bit fast, if u like the guy, better to keep the relation on a platonic level, with flirting and hints, but the sooner u get physical, the more chance u have of loosing the guy. Anyway, what is done cannot be undone. Nothing much is lost, if he does not call u, u can call him, maybe he is really busy, u call him but make it simple and hint more at friendship and company, and how u were thinking of him. The relation has to be built, even girls have to do the spade work, only they do it subtly, but they do the brick work, just as much as the boy, and sometimes more, if the boy is slow.

He has not called because he got what he wanted. You should learn to control your behavior and move on. This guy was not looking for a long term relationship.

With questions like these it really depends on the guy. If he just wanted a quick lay and u didnt give it to him then hes probably not gonna call u back. On the other hand maybe hes real busy or going thru some hard times right now and needs to be alone. Or maybe you could have scared him away cuz hes probably thinking you wont be ready for sex for like another year or so. Not to burst your bubble but unless your 17 or younger a hand job is nothing real special.

A hand-job on the first night would definitely not ruin anything ... If you really feel the need to talk to him, just call him up. Don't mention anything, and just act as if things are normal (because they are). The more pressure you put on yourself, the more it will show through when dealing with him. Relationships are tricky because they involve two people communicating with each other in various ways. Because you don't know what they are thinking (and vice-versa), it comes down to how well you talk to each other.
Don't read too much into things, and also don't assume, other than that just relax and enjoy yourself and I think you'll be surprised at the results.

It i s gropingly realised by councillors that initiation of sex as the sign of friendship is a in gross and is full of psychological problems to come, besides the unwanted and invited risks.

Your friend is more interested in sex than friendship hence he did not call you later, but wants to hang on to you for his future needs." Your dilemma due to superficial talks between the two say once a month strengthens the fact the signals are not only mixed but are very superficial for you and instead of getting scared, avoid further meeting in privacy.

At the moment he does not need you. And if you show interest one sided, he would come again to have you and vanish soon thereafter.

Wow ok girl this is wat you do you forget about it c'mon a week and he hasn't called he doesn't want to call b'cuz anytime he calls fter this means that he wants you to "please" him again so all you do is go about your normal life and don't worry about him if he calls or brings it up you act like you don't know wat the hell he's talking about because guys like those will turn and try and make you feel horrible as a sense of having control over you so wat you do is act like that crap didn't fase you and don't call him b'cuz if you do then he feels like he has control over you and you don't need to be controlled you need to FORGET ABOUT HIM and don't ever ever ever ever ever ever do some crap like that again of a first date ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!