Young college moms, how did you do it? or Young moms period!!!!?

I was wondering if i could email, any moms out there that would give me good insight on to how i could be the best mom i can be, with a job, and to stay in college for full-time. I have a boyfriend who is very willing to have this baby, and he will and wants to be there for the rest of our lives. He has filled out close to 10 applications to jobs that offer high pay. He just got a call back last night from comcast, which offers about 11.75 an hour, so hopefully that comes thru and we can start moving forward with this. I dont want to put my baby up for adoption, or abortion. We both layed down and this is the result. I wont call my baby a mistake or a consequence, it is a human being that i will bring into this world, and try my hardest to become the best mother and role model i can be. Thats why i am plannin on staying in college, through my whole pregnancy, and after the baby is born. but if there are any teen moms out there who are willing to share their story with me, and advice on

how me and my boyfriend could be the best providers, and how i could overcome the many obstacles of being a fulltime student, and parent, and a part-time job. And healthcare, and the necessities he/she will need. Please help . thank you

I'm not a teenager now, but I had my oldest when I was nineteen. I was in college full time and worked almost full time while raising her by myself. It can be done, the more help you have the easier it is. My mother was a lifesaver to me. If you are doing it together, I would sit down and really lay down the ground rules.....it doesn't sound so romantic, but in reality life isn't romantic and it keeps on going, so either you get on the bus or you miss it. Write out both schedules, yours and his......figure out who is going to be in charge of baby care when and when you are going to need outside child care.....I can tell you that if you don't have a relative or friend willing to do it for free or low cost, Child care will be your biggest expense. Full time infant child care where I live can't be found for less than $1,000 a month, and in most cases it's significantly more. A lot of people keep child care costs down by working opposite shifts, it cuts down on together time....but it also cuts wayyyyy down on child care costs.

It isn't going to be easy, but it can be done. You just need to do a lot of communicating. Having a baby is not like any other commitment you make and the hanging out with the friends and going out is going to slow way down if not stop completely. Life becomes about the baby, not about you. It's a huge change and that takes some time for a lot of people to adjust to.

I can't offer any advice as I wasn't as strong as you when I had an unplanned pregnancy and was in college, I just wanted to offer you my best wishes and tell you that I think you are doing a wonderful thing by taking responsibility and making the choice to raise your baby.

Sorry I can't give you any advice, but you should know that you're a really strong, really amazing person. Good luck to your boyfriend, I hope he gets a great job. And good luck to you in finishing your degree and in raising your child!

well im not the only haha i work and go to school and preg. with my 2nd child, well i got preg. @ 17 i finished h.s. on time i started college late im finishing up this year. all i have to say is you can do it, and it will be hard but if i can do it you can do it and when you get your degree or whatever your going for it will pay off in the end. if you ever feel like giving because your tired or dont feel like it anymore just think a couple more months and it will be over.

ok I commend you on staying is school. For jobs do you have any experience w/ kids? If so become a nanny they pay fairly well. Also you can find a family that will let you bring your little one w/ you which means you dont have to pay for child care. Have your boyfriend find a job also that has similar hours to yours. That way you both work at the same time. When you both come home from work he can watch the baby while you go to evening classes? Just an idea. As for high paying jobs for your bf. Try the airport. Like working in the baggage claim. I hear that pays well. Or find a job w/ commission like verizon wireless. They pay like 11.00 an hour plus commission Its going to be really hard being young parents but its worth it. I wish you luck!

I am not a young mum anymore, my eldest is nearly 15. And I was not a teenager when I had her either - I was 22 - so I am not sure you will want to hear what I have to say.

BUT: you are about to embark on a LIFELONG CAREER. Mothering is forever. What education have you given yourself to prepare for such a momentous event? Is an education for some imagined job opportunity to earn money in some far distant future more important than an education for a BABY in the near future, a baby who needs you to know NOW what to do with it, how to parent it, how to follow it's needs?

Did you know that the first 3 years of a child's life will determine how she will be for the rest of her life? Parenting is extremely important. And what you do now - how you nurture yourself, how you birth, whether you breastfeed - all impact on your baby. Heck, what you have already done impacts too - your hormones are his hormones right now. If you are feeling happy, baby will be bathed in those happy hormones, if you are angry, likewise.

SO, what to do? There are options other than the career. Or you could take your baby with you when you go to school or where ever. Ask yourself: if I bought a toaster, how long is the manaul. If I get myself a baby, WHERE IS THE MANUAL?

Find out what you can now. Look to the families that you think function best/are happiest. What are they doing? If you want to learn to drive a car, you ask someone who drives a car to teach you. If you want to know how to best/naturally parent a child, you ask someone who breastfed, who loves their children, who has happy, intelligent, amazing children. And who is happy being a parent. If you don't have people like that in your life, then you need to find some.

You can check out the links I have included if you like. I must say though, that they are just a start, but a great one. In my humble opinion! LOVE to you and your new life.

I was a young mum so i you need any advice i can help it really just comes to you really it did for me i wasnt that old still in school and had know idea of what to do i knew it was my fault and i had to do it and i did it will happen for you things will work out.