A question for anybody struggling with their girlfriend's/boyfriend's parents? Please help me.?

So here is my situation. Please help me. In just a few months my girlfriend of 4 years (who I'm REDICULOUSLY in love with) and I are moving in together. She's my best friend and I would do absolutely anything for her. I'd quite literally die for her. So obviously, we're looking forward to moving in together.
There is one problem: HER DAD! He's a very closed-minded, short-tempered individual. He ALWAYS thinks he's right and everyone else is wrong. My girlfriend is the sweetest person I know and she is very respectful to her parents. Yet, her dad (and her mom, but mostly her dad) can't seem to loosen up on her. They can't realize that she is growing up. He gets SO angry with her over the dumbest things. He tries to make her feel really bad by saying the shitiest things. He wants me to call him tomorrow so we can talk about something (I don't know what).

How should I approach this? Should I finally tell him how shitty he is, or should I let him walk all over me? Tips?

politely, tell him u love his daughter and only want the best for her u have good intentions and promise to her and him if need be to look after her. convince him that this is a move you both have put alot of thought into and hope that he understands how much u care for her. tell him that you understand his concerns and hope that he stays close to his daughter because u understand importance of family. if he freaks out or tries to degrade u let him know how important this is to both of u and your relationship. just be honest, if he starts attacking u or his daughter tell him that u love his daughter and thats all u can promise him. u dont need to take his **** either tho, tell him maybe it is best for him to speek with your girlfriend and u dont feel right without her there.

First thing first, I would talk to your girlfriend. After talking to her see how she feels about the situation. Then I would approach "dad" lightly. I wouldn't be to forward about anything, but I would also act in a respectable manner.

Usually in these situations if you act yourself you should be fine. If you love your girlfriend and your girlfriend loves you, then everything will be fine!

no if you love this girl fight the obstacles you have in your path i have same problems so yea com front them!! well that what i think!!

It is best to be nice to her Dad. If he wants to cause trouble about the two of you living together, just tell him it is her choice. You may not be able to control him, so just avoid him when you can.

Stand up to him, but don't tell him how shitty he is. Like any parent they just probably want to make sure their daughter will be well taken care of. My parents were bossing me around until I got married.

dont let him walk all over you but tell him how shitty he is in a nice and respectful way if that doesnt give him the picture then have ur gf talk with him and tell him that you r gonna be in her life weather he likes it or not... good luck

I have been through alot with the parents and family matters in that sence and really this is her father, and that will never change, do you really think she does not want to have a good realtionship with him for the rest of her life think about the future, kids and get togethers, she will want to spend time with her father right so she will want to be with you to, so you should try to do the best you can to deal and say what you need to say with respect that this is the girl of your dreams Father and your childrens grandfather, that is an important part of a family unless he is abusive in any way towards your girlfriend then be a man and take cotrol

I kind of had a similar situation, but I had a baby with their son(who is their golden child CAN DO NO WRONG) I already had 2 other children I'm 29 yrs. old our baby just turned 2 on the 27th. So let me put it this way..... They were very mean to me. They didn't throw a baby shower for their first grandchild which I thought was strange.So finally I had enough, one day I was there and the father was calling my 2 other children baggage. I told him off very bad. It ruined the relationship completely, eventually when our baby was one it ruined us too. There's other details that don't involve your situation ,but when I finally let out how I felt I was never allowed in the house again and it caused a huge strain on us. So you have to weigh your options. I have to much pride to sit there and have someone belittle me and make comments about my children and my life.Especially since I know I am a very good mother and person. Plus I made their son get a real job go to school and become a man. Yet still there was no getting through to either one of them EVER !!!

your so sweet!

you know what, some really idiot people can have some really great offspring. but dont blow up at him, it wont solve anything. he is just a dad who feels his little girl is being taken away from him and he is taking it out on you because he feels you are the source of his angst.

sit tight, hopefully he'll get over it when she pops out a kid =)