My boyfriend was laid off for sometime during that time he details cars. He was called back to work?

upon him going back thru the hiring process something came up on his record that was going to cause him not to start and be terminated and he lead me to believe that he was starting his job he knew for 5 days that he wasn't able to return to work. Monday the head supervisor called and approved him to come back then he told me what was going on with him I am furious because i felt like he should of told me. I feel like who am i to you if you cant talk to me i thought we was better than that he claims i am his best friend and he loves me unconditionally if so why come he didnt tell me what was going on he said he thought i would be mad and he was embarrassed and didnt know how to tell me because we both was looking forward to him going back to work i havent talked to him all week. What if the supervisor hadnt approved him going back he would of still had to tell me. Someone please tell me how would you feel about this i want mens and womens point of veiw. Communication warms my heart

Sounds like your kinda mean.... maybe he is afraid to talk to you.

He probably was embarassed and didn't know how you would take the news. Tell him that from here on out you want the truth and honesty from him. WOrk on communicating better.

So, what's your question? That just sounded like venting.

WTF?

I don't understand any of that!

oh please get the ***** over it....
YOu're not understanding at all and sound awfully controlling.

He had a valid reason not tell, he was probably a bit ashamed and wasn't sure what you'd thought of him,,,he was actually being considerate you moron.

That how some mens do, he didn't want to disappoint you to see he was a failure. Just be thankful that he got to go back to the job. Just tell him if something happens again, always be honest with you, because you love him.

Pride, A lot of men feel so much pressure to be the provider, it can be a source of embarrassment to not be able to be "the provider". No matter how hard it is he feels that he would be letting you down.

I'd feel a bit upset too, but at the end of the day you were not effected in any way...

I imagine that he would have told you if he needed to, he might have been ashamed about it... he might have been concerned that you would worry.... OR it might just not have occurred to him that it was a problem.

Don't read too much into it, give the guy a break.

The supervisor shouldn't have said anything to you! I wouldn't tell your boyfriend you know either... It'll just make him feel like crap.

that is a very embarrassing situation 4 men. they dont wanna dissappoint u. i understand where he is coming from but at the same time if u guys r suppossed 2 b best friends then he should of spoken 2 u about it. u dont keep anything from ur spouse. period

huh?

Men look at their job as an extension of their self worth. If there was a possibility that he would lose the employment, he probably looked it as a failure on his part. If he was given the idea that his job would be reinstated he was probably waiting to tell you because if it was reinstated he wouldn't have to admit failure. Instead when he was granted approval to work ("success") he was able to tell you about the situation because he had no longer failed. If he wasn't approved to work, he probably would have told you but not given you the full details of the story and made himself look like a martyr.

I know a guy who was terminated because of something that he had done and didn't even tell his mother. She found out when she went through his mail and read the termination letter. Even when he was called on it, he didn't give her the full story.

more we feel that we are running the show and all under our control more we regrete. try learning some thing (like english) and divert ,try to b happy.
let us play our part well , thank god and trust him . expect nothing from life , as its illusion.

To be honest that was difficult to understand clearly- it did sound like venting. But I *think* what you are asking is if you can trust him.

I'll tell you something about men. We are are very proud and insecure at the same time when it comes to things like a job. To most men, work is probably he most important way they define who they are. He didn't tell you be cause he felt like failure and because he felt that he failed you, and was ashamed of it.

Put away your hurt feelings because they will only build a wall between you. He did not mean to hurt you or imply mistrust. For the future, tell him that you want him to share what's going on with him even if it a negative thing, *because you are his partner*. And if he does it again, try to understand why he did it instead of feeling he doesn't trust you with it. Of course if he does do it again, you have a reason to be angry IF you've told him what you expect, but don't be hurt. He is still doing a guy thing- trying to protect you.

Give him the opportunity to answer your questions but don't pressure him to tell you. Let him be aware that COMMUNICATION and TRUST are components to a long lasting relationship, and you need them in order to have a good relationship along with UNDERSTANDING, PATIENCE without them it could lead into a problem but dwell on it at this time. If he becomes a repeat offender then you know there is a problem.

he may have been ashamed and was afraid it would have affected your relationship. You can't just go off on him there may of been deeper emotional reasons why he didn't say anything. Most men are willing to open up about a lot of things but somethings that they won't out of fear of what their girlfriend or wife will think of them and so on. ...

u lov the man dont u... all it is, no matter what happens u stand by him at all times, men have an ego u know n they not always no matter how much they lov u or how much ur thier best friend tell u everything, he might have been embaressed n thought u would look down on him... give the man a break he told u... better late then never don't u think.