He's deploying Should I still show I care?

Just want to see a military-man's view...
So my ex-marine broke up with me a couple of months back from a fight, after saying "Me and my friends happiness means more to me than you ever will." We dated for 2 years, and I was incredibly hurt that he'd even say that to me. To get over him, I told myself that its "forever over" with no hopes of getting back together.
Fast forward three months, and I was at the bar in Chili's with this new guy and my ex's dad showed up!! - Small town, and my ex is a Marine - I guess his dad didn't know that we had broken up and told my ex that he saw me with another guy.
So then my ex calls me and asks "what the hell are you doing" and all of this other stuff. He's the one who broke up with me! He's the one who didn't tell his parents. Now my ex is leaving for Afghanistan for his third deployment (we were together for the first two deployments to Iraq), and I want to send him well-wishes, before I go to Iraq for a year, and thats all. What would you do

Forgive me for sounding callous... but your ex sounds like an idiot. If he broke up with you, he has no business assuming that you're not going to start seeing other people. If he doesn't like the fact that you are, then he shouldn't have broken up with you, should he?

Wish him well on his deployment. If he wants to continue being a jerk, that's on him, not on you--you, at least, had the decency to be a mature adult and wished him well. If he can't even do that much for you in return, then you're probably better off that he broke it off for you.

Best of luck to you, on your own upcoming deployment, by the way. Stay safe.

walk away, start fresh! forget him!

I was in a similar situation before I left for Iraq. Before I left I got several phone calls and emails from exes wishing me good luck and to come home safe. It's no so much a gesture that you want to be with him, but a gesture to let him know you hope he stays safe. I'm not him, so I can't say how he'll react, but when these girls called and emailed me, even though I didn't get along with some of them, it was still appreciated that they had me in their thoughts.

I have been to Iraq 3 times. I have been in the Army for 8 years. I can tell you just do what you want cause it is the best way to forget him braking up with you. You will be to busy having fun that you won't even think about him. He is a big boy, specially being a Marine he can pretty much take care of himself. My brother was in the Marines for four years. He deployed to Kuwait for the invasion of Iraq. When I heard his stories. His military life had nothing to do with his personal life, he dated however money females he wanted and he had a close knit group of friends. Most us guys want to have as much power as we can over women. So if you give in to his games, you will be pushed around like a toy and not know about it. So go on dates, do what you want. He has no right to tell you anything, since he pretty much said he wants nothing to do with you and your life.

I would always feel better about myself as a person if I knew that someone I had dated was being deployed back into a very dangerous and possibly deadly situation.

He may not have broken up with you in the most mature manner, but you did date for two years, so he must hold some positive meaning in your life. He obviously still has some feelings for you or he wouldn't have not told his parents, and definitely would not have been upset with the fact that his Dad saw you with a new guy.

Be the bigger person, and wish him the best. No one really can tell what the future holds, and you should keep your support positive, he can use all the help and blessings he can get.

I wish you both the best.