Boyfriend, soon to be ex, is upset with me, wondering why?

ok so me and him started going out over break. He's in the corps right so I was like ok, sure I'll hang out with you. You know easy to relate and all. Well he took me out a couple of times. I didn't think much of it just thought we were casually dating. Well one day, I mean we hadn't talked in awhile because he was up in colorado and I get this relationship request from him on facebook. So I'm like whoa...ok, we're together now? A bit early to start thinking about it but oh well. Like I said I didn't think much of it so I was like ok I'll ask him what's going on when he gets back. So I ask him like why do you want to be with me...I mean it was kinda random. I didn't think he liked me or anything. He was like I missed getting to talk to you and be with you. So I was like ok sure I missed you too - I kinda did. I honestly to tell you the truth didn't like him that much to begin with but I was like shoot it's a bonus for the break. Then he said, I just didn't want this to be like a fling that happened over break and then us go back to school thinking nothing happened. So I'm like ok...still unsure about him. Well anyways, fast forwarding to this weekend. We were still together. Well come Saturday afternoon, we had just gone out the previous night and I'm not going to lie I actually started to like him a little bit more, so I was happy, well anyways, he calls me and asks me if I want to go out to a nice dinner with two of his best friends (which happen to be girls :P) so I was like sure, I'd like to meet them. So Saturday night comes and we walk over to their dorms. This is when the **** really hits the fan They're already outside. So expecting to meet them, I get the opposite. The girl walk right past me and start talking to him. So I'm like thinking what the hell? But all I did was just smile and nod and go along with it I mean these were his "best friends." But see here's the thing, these girls are like preppy hoeish annoying girls...no really...they were with their boyfriends and all but still they still found it necessary to flirt with Ryan. Now, I'm just taking this all in. I'm a little pissed as you can imagine. Ryan, did notice I was looking a little uncomfortable with the situation so of course he asked what was wrong and I told him hey I don't think I'll be able to talk much. I don't do to well these sort of things..I mean you know what I'm talking about right? The comfort zone you have with your own social group? I mean comeon you can't just put me with them and expect us to get along. So we get to the resturaunt and so far the only words they spoke to me were hi I'm Alex and hi I'm Casey. Blah blah, after that they went on talking a mile a minute before I could start another subject. So the whole time I'm like this sucks...I'm sitting here being ignored with Ryan occasionally asking me what's wrong. Apparently, the girls were trying to talk to me...well they were doing a pretty damn good job of it by not saying a word to me and flirting with Ryan. So I'm forcing the smile now. It just got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore so I started texting and calling people because seriously it was like no one else gave a ****. It's not like they were talking to me anyways. So dinner finishes and they all congregate together somewhere and I'm left out of course, so I take it as my cue to leave the resturaunt before I kill somebody. I went outside and Ryan follows out and he's like what the hell? I'm like I can't talk to them, I just can't. I'm not saying don't hang out with them. By that time they had started walking out and I went to my car in the other parking lot. Now the bastard actually has the nerve to ask me if he could ride back with them. And I'm thinking, are you kidding me? So you're just ditching me for the rest of the night? Son of a *****...so I said fine I don't give a **** and I just sped off. Well later that night he calls me and asks me what's wrong. I explain AGAIN to him what was wrong. This was his response.he thought I was being disrespectful by not talking to the damn preppy hoes. He kept saying how they wanted to talk to me but they never said a damn thing to me.I told him pretty much I was ignored the whole night. He was like you were being disrespectful. You didn't even try to talk to them. I was like that's bullshit because I did try talking to them. They just chose to not carry on with the conversation. He didn't understand how I wasn't able to become friends with them. I'm like thinking to myself you can't just put a group of people together and expect everything to go great. I said that I kept calling my friends because at least they gave a ****. He was like I do give a ****, that's why I called. (his voice starts breaking) I've been working so hard. So hard. I still want to make this work. Yet he still makes me the bad guy. He's accusing me and I finally just say ok I've already apologized for that. How many times do I have to explain myself as to why I did what I did. You were flirting away with them leaving me to just take it all in. I'm sorry , there I apologized then I hung up. The next morning he took off the facebook relationship deal. And I'm like thinking to myself, so this is making things work. I talk to him later that night, he's drunk off his *** right, and I ask him why he ended the thing. He was like I was tired of trying to make things work. I was like ok so your just going to give up...and he's like I still want to try and make it work, I just came back drunk last night. Then he starts accusing me and blaming me for why it's so hard. Of course he says he can't talk anymore because he's drunk. The next day he calls and he's still claiming that he wants to make things work. Well, I'm like why? He says he doesn't know. Then I ask him, why did you go out with me then? Why do you like me? he said I don't know...so I'm like basically you were just lonely and were just using me...he's like no that's not it. Then what is it...I still don't get an answer from him. So I'm ok, you want to make things work but you don't know why you're with me. Don't you think there's something wrong there? He's like yea, but give some time to think on it...and I'm like time? You've had a month to figure it out. so I was like ok, you give me a good reason as to why I should make it work and I will. that's when he hung up on me. I talked to him again later that day and he's like I don't want to talk right now...I was like are you really that upset with me? he's like I just need time to sort things out. So I leave him with this...if he finds he still wants to make things work I will try and do the same starting over entirely...if he doesn't then well best wishes to you....

Neither one of you seem mature enough for a relationship.

omg. I didnt even get throught the who thing. You write too much of the situation. Loose him. He invites you to dinner with two of his girlfriends. No. He aint worth it

i think you made the right choice. i understand what you mean about preppy hoes... my bf had his 22nd b day party the other day and they were al ova him. i told him i was going to leave and he told me to **** off... im prego with his baby and i dnt wanna turn out lke a drop kick.... thats y im still with him... if u think you can find someone better i think u should otherwise you will end in a dead end relationship just like me....

I never knew a question could be so long.....


I think that you all need to look at first how old you are and if this relationship is serious or not. If it's serious, you'll both do whatever it takes to make it work, but just understand that sometimes things can't be forced. if he's wrong to you and won't change, leave him, you'll find better out there... Just hang in there, I wish you the best of luck.