He was my first and I loved him but he decided to end the relationship?

He asked me out, and we've been talking everyday on the phone. I really liked him, and I was looking forward to a long-term relationship. I thought that he felt the same way too. We were very comfortable talking to each other. On our second date, we were attracted to each other physically, so we ended up having intercourse. It wasn't his first, but he was my FIRST, and I told him so. I totally freaked out. I told him I never had intercourse with anyone, and I couldn't explain why it happened and how terrible I felt (I come from a very conservative family). He didn't want to listen to my emotions and anxiety; eventually he called me a Drama Queen. The day after, he called me to end our relationship. He made up the excuse that since he and I do not have the same ethnicity, I should have known that he was not being serious and was looking for "fun." I just gasped. I could not believe what he said.

I feel terrible losing my virginity and is totally in shock about what he said. Is possible that he lost trust in me because I gave in too easily in sex. This is just not me at all. I was able to keep my virginity up until 25 years old. I really like him and I guess instinctively by giving myself to him, I would feel the same way too, but apparently I was wrong. I am so depressed right now. I feel so shameful (being raised a good, studious girl believing in sex after marriage). I know what I did was wrong but I was so attracted to him, I did not know what happened. I want to know what's going on through his mind, but he told us to not call each other again. I am so hurt. Please help. What shall I do?

Use this experince for the rest of your life. Never give in that early and make sure you think it is right. I had this happen and it taught me a lesson. I respect myself more and the= next man I was with is the one I married. Sorry that this happened to you, I know how much it sucks. Hope everything works out for you. As for him....what a loser hope it rots off.

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now that is what we girls call a dirtbag. he does NOT deserve you. and if he's gonna act like that..he's never gonna find a steady relationship

Well, if you're going to freak out on a guy that you've only been with once and say the 'v' word, then expect to get dumped. guys dont want to deal with a drama queen, and you shouldn't have done anything with him if you were going to act like that. Should've waited. That's life, so move on and get another guy, and next time, take things slower. You obviously need the emotional attachment before anything physical.

And thats why people should wait till they're married to have sex. Sorry that happend to you, but what can you really do? It is what it is.

Immature d*ck. Sucks that he was your first. But it's good that you're not with him. Guys are such asses.

what an ****.
because of ethnicity?
he's a racist ******.

the only thing i could say to you, is to get over him. he's a total loser. you can totally get someone better.

R u serious? How old r u? Thats man and sad and wow...Id beat him wit a bat

To put it bluntly, it sounds like you got 'played'. I guess now you know - don't have sex on the second date. My man and I were together for five months before we had sex. That way I knew he was in the relationship because he liked and cared for me, not because he wanted sex. It was a terrible thing that happened to you - he is clearly not worthy of your time. You just have to pick up the pieces and move on, and save yourself for someone who really cares for you, rather than ill-advisedly giving it up on the second date. Wait at least 3 months next time!

That's bullshit. Not being from the same ethnicity has nothing to do with why he broke up with you. He is an asshole and am sorry that you lost something so precious to a dick head like him. My ex did the same thing to me. He was my first too and i thought that we were in love and of course i was wrong. Lil boy's like him give bad rap to other good men that are out there. Don't waste you time worrying about him and I KNOW IT WOULD BE HARD TO DO. BUT TRY YOUR BEST TO SAY "**** HIM" AND GET SOMEONE 100% BETTER THAN HIM BECAUSE YOU DESERVE BETTER!

Well, Sorry that this happened to you. But this is why I always tell any girl on here that is thinking about having sex for the first time with someone that she has not already had a long time relationship, not to do it! You see, You only get one chance to make it a good first time and too many times girls make this mistake and end up feeling horrible about their first experience.Just know its not the end of the world. You now know he was a jerk who was just playing you to get what he wanted. He was probably hoping for more but once you showed how you felt about it already,he decided it was time to move on now. Don't feel bad,at least you got rid of his butt right away. Alot of girls get used by guys like him many times before being ditched.
Just chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on. You will find someone who will appreciate and care for you,that wont use you for selfish needs. Just make sure to keep your head on straight and don't let anyone convince you to do anything your not comfortable doing and it should all work out in the end.And dont worry about the virgin thing. It isnt really such a big deal. You will still feel good and important when it comes time with the right guy in the right situation. You are still you and whats in your heart is alot more important than any of the rest you have to offer.
Good Luck!

He does not deserve your love. You're too innocent and trusting; you thought that he feels the same way that you do to him, but guys are not like that. They mostly look for sexual satisfaction; therefore, to make sure that he's willing to commit to a relationship with you, you have to be patient, taking time out to talk to him, go out with him to find out more about him. You cannot undo what happened. There's only one first time in a girl's life; and you lost it to a bastard. I'm so sorry. You deserve better. Forget about him! Think about your future. You'll meet someone who cares, values, and loves you for who you are, and sex is worth waiting until marriage. That's what makes a long lasting relationship. Forget him; the dude does not deserve your time and effort. Good luck to you.