How to help understand this issue?

Okay, this may be complicated. Two of my friends, married to each other, and whom I both like equally, are having arguments about family and money issues.
The man, whose family has been consistently without work (can't keep jobs due to hygiene issues, has been on welfare for years) and calling in favors from everyone they know, is sticking to his guns about helping them and supporting them.
The woman, whose family helps the couple regardless of the problem, doesn't want to be saddled with the debts of her husbands family. She says that the couple will never get out of their own debts (funeral services, current bills) if he keeps giving them vehicles and money to use.
The man has been arguing with her to the point where she is ready to divorce him and he thinks it's a joke on him apparently. I'm caught in middle of this and would appreciate some outside input on what the heck is going on.

If you're going to tell me to mind my own business, don't please, I know.

It has been going on since before they were married (three years ago). Also her in-laws are dad 49 mom 51 brothers 25 and 27. None have kept a steady job (for over a year). Only the 25 year old has a job in a family of 6. Her husband has kept a steady job but his family hasn't.

And no crap answers that dwell on the past, please! You can't begrudge someone for falling in love regardless of the situation. Who would have known it would have gotten worse? (Young people nowadays, sheesh.)

You are friends with both right? Just continue to be a friend to each of them and be careful because you don't want them to pull you into the middle of their problems. If each asks your opinion, remind each that it is only your opinion and that they requested your thoughs and if they don't agree with you don't pull you into it. Hygeine issues can be worked out. He shouldn't be able to get welfare for that. She can insist that he literally "cleans" up his act.

Tell your girlfriend that her marriage is in serious trouble and she should consider divorce. Her husband has chosen his family over her. His first duty is to his wife , and I cant understand why his family members cant hold a job. I suspect they don't want to hold a job. This is an intolerable situation. To see all your savings go to people who wont help themselves is unacceptable. Just tell her to leave, no one deserves this.

it sounds as though she needs to get out- her family is right in saying that they will be forever in debt if hes not working all the time yet helping his family out.
The other option is to get a financial advisor to sit down with them and sort out where they are at and where they need to be heading to clear it up.

I just copied and pasted this from my last one because it is the same thing over and over again!!! When are people going to wake up!?!? The wrong person, boredom, craziness, cheating, kids, abuse, blah, blah, blah, etc., etc., etc. Those are all just excuses and circumstances what people don't see is the common denominator!!! MARRIAGE!!! Marriage is a lie. It only works if you lie to each other and to yourselves that everything is great.