Dont have maternity care by Dr.'s too expensive, what to do???

So I've been reading a ton of answers to my other Q and thanks so much they're very helpful (you agree with me not my hubby LOL) but I have one other HUGE prob. My daughter is under state insurance but me and my hubby dont qualify becuase the two of us make too much money for us to be under her coverage. My parents have me under their insurance still because as long as I'm in school at least part time, married or not, it will cover me. My hubby dosnt have any because his dad owns a small business that he works for but his dad dosnt get insurance. So my prob. is that my mom's insurance for me dosnt cover maternity care, and when I was preggo with my daughter I had to go to the community health center and all of that nonsense. We aren't some of those people that like to take hand outs (my MIL was furious that I refused to get WIC when I HAVE the money to buy my daughter her formula). I dont like to take advantage so why if I can pay would I look for hand outs?

Anyways, the Dr. that handled me at the community place has his own reg. practice too but I honestly cant afford to pay out of pocket for maternity care. I hate the way the people look at you when you sign up for the free care (like you are some knocked up *hore) Which I'm not. Is it ok for me to get preggo if I cant pay out of pocket for Dr. and have to go through the state for care? I can take care of my kids, I dont mean get assistance for my daughter or any other kids I may eventually have, I am just talking about maternity care? WHat do you think?

If you can't afford insurance and don't qualify for medicaid, then you are either going to have to suck it up and go with community health or pay the cost of a OB/GYN (If you can get one to accept you w/o health insurance) and suck up the cost.

It sucks, but that's the truth of it. Maybe you should use your experience to get involved with healthcare advocacy. After all, it is the SYSTEM that is the root of your problem a system that seems to believes that

Only the Wealthy
Have the Right to be Healthy

Welcome to America!

Either you need assistance or not.
If you have money for formula then why don't you have money for the doctor ?
My point is , take the assistance where you can.
You did not plan for the care of you and your child , so you need assistance.
I'm having a hard time understanding why you won't take the assistance. We want you to , that's why we pay for it.
Just don't "scam" , and don't feel guilty.If you qualify , you qualify. Plain and simple.
You must endure the looks from others for the benefit of your child.

You say u have the money to deal with all your kids and u and your husband has so much money that they dont allow u on the insurance plan and u say u dont like how they watch u when u sign up for the free clinic WELL USE ALL THE MONEY U HAVE AND GO TO THE DOC u wanna brag about your money and when ppl watch u funny for recievin handout that is for who cant afford it u feel bad

since you are pregnant then you might qualify NOW for medicaid..... go back up there and fill out another application. it is a lot harder to get on medicaid when you are not pregnant and an adult then it is to get qualified and being pregnant. now you are pregnant, your unborn child IS considered another household.....