Am I wrong to be mad?

I have had this friend since the 5th grade. I have always known her to be flighty and very self centered, yet we have managed to remain friends all these years--partly because I truly love her 2 kids. I have always been there for her and listened to her problems and helped her whenever she needed it.

I recently had a child of my own. When I decided to have my son baptized, I threw a huge party including all my family and my friends. My friend said the entire family was coming.

Well, they never showed. No phone call or anything. I was, of course, hurt. So, I called her. She gives me this big speech about how she thought it was the following weekend and she has been scatterbrained since the family business is going under--and lots of other things going on in her life.

That was basicially the last straw. My mom thinks I should give her a break, but this was HUGELY important to me. She had a chance to be there for me and she blew it. Am I wrong to be so upset?

You should ask yourself is this friend someone that you want to keep in your life. Just because you grow up with a person does not mean that you two have things in common. Maybe you should listen to your mother, she does know best. However, if I were you, I would just learn not to depend on this person anymore and learn to steer your life away from hers.

Yes you are wrong.

You know her better than we do. If she is someone who would pull something like that, then yes, you do have the right to be mad. If she isn't, then no, don't be mad. I'm going to go out on a limb and assume that you have significant reason to be upset along the lines of she has pulled something like this before.

I would be upset too, but unless she's destroying your life, I wouldn't cut all ties with her. With people like this, you just have to know that they're not dependable - you can enjoy your time with them, but don't guarantee they'll always be there for you.

try to have another party and see if she comes and if she doesnt shes not a good friend. but u are right to be wrong. but maybe she did tell the truth?
hope i helped!

you are NOT wrong to be upset.
i have (or had) a lot of friends like that before, but i got rid of all of them this new year.

there are a lot of people that are only your friends when they need you, but when you need them, they are no-shows
better to have some good friends, then a lot of bad ones.

look no one is perfect n no matter how long the friendship mite be, SPACE is needed. maybe she needs some space or a break but no need 2 get worried over it, she shuld be alrite soon. try throwing a another party n invite 4 sure n cthe results

No you are not wrong to be mad, but I don't think she blew you off on purpose.

well i think you should be upset but not to upset.
just tell her that it was an important day for your baby but you forgive her....you dont find many people who will still be your friend since 5th grade and the problem sounds like a big misunderstanding

you are not wrong to be upset... i would too.. however a friendship like that shouldnt just be forgotten.. you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel... im surte shes sorry and hopefully she will try harder in the future to be there for you and be reliable

she just lost track of time... let it go. yeah u should be mad, but since uve been friends for sooo long, i think u should remain friends. ur friendship shouldnt be that fragile that it would just crumble becuz of this! u should tell her that ur upset, but u shouldnt be mad, just dissapointed.

I dunno it's unfortunate for both of you, if she was telling the truth about the family business. But yes, she really should have made your celebration a priority and then maybe she wouldnt have forgot, i mean its a pretty big deal to you so it should be to her as well- if she is such a close friend. It seems like she is self centered and you are not as big of a priority as you should be. This doesnt seem like you are getting much satisfaction out of this relationship. She needs to work on her friend skills.

You have every right to be disappointed...this was a big event and she missed it. But by your own admission she's always been "flighty", so are you really surprised?

Sweetie....This was a very special event for your son, husband immediate family. That baptism has such wonderful meaning..Your friend is stressed. Let it be...All you should say to her is we really missed you. Nothing more nothing less. When a business is going under that is nothing but stress..Take the high road....

You are not wrong to be mad at her!!!! She is absolutely unbelievable!!! There are no excuses for her. No, I would let her go. If she gets a taste of her own medicine, perhaps she will come to her senses, especially since you have always been there for her. Good luck. Sounds like a great party though despite her. Move on and be happy are my wishes for you. God bless.