I'm 25, I own my own business, why does my dad keep telling me I need to grow up?

I was on a swim team all throughout high school and college. Then I got a great paying job, but I was getting fat because I didn't have enough to time to swim. Many people told me I was dumb and immature for quitting, but I quit. After a few months, I started my own business with NO help from my parents, and began making more money than at my old office job, AND I have a lot of free time now. I'm in really good shape now because of swimming, I have all my hair, so EVERYONE tells me I look younger, some people think I'm in high school. Even though I make a good living, my dad is always telling me to "grow up". He hates that I'm always swimming, or doing tricks on either my skateboard or rollerblades. I bought a trampoline, and began going to the gymnastics center again. I started doing le parkour, jumping from roofs, rock climbing, rappelling, and climbing trees. My dad says I act like a 16 year old, but I make good money.

Why is it such a problem for him what I do for fun?

Maybe he means you should act more mature and stop doing tricks on your skateboard or rollerskating after all you are 25 years old. P.S money has nothing to do with maturity it's how you act.

Dude stop worrying about what daddy thinks and then you'll be a grown up.

you are you own person

ITs your parents job to always know more than you and to keep telling you to grow up. IF they didn't, they fear you would never grow up and that you would stay 25 forever.

He's probably boring.

He's just being a hater. Probably jealousy

He is probably jealous of you! Your 25 so live it up and have fun, it shouldn't matter what others think!

Money and maturity not the same thing. Maybe he wants you to be smarter with all your $$. maybe he's jealous. Who knows. But, I can tell you this much. He's probably right. You probably do need to grow up, because if you think that money and owning your own business makes you mature, you're so wrong.

Some parents have trouble letting go of their kids. Just do your thing and let him know that his attitude is pushing you away. If he continues do what you have to do.

because real men do not rollerskate,

he is jealous that u can support urself and still have time for the things u want to do at a young age. just tell him it is ur life and u will live it the way u want to (which to me sounds pretty good)

He probably is one of those Hallmark TV hard-butt dads who really loves you and wants you to not only be successful but stay successful. he doesn't want you to break something or get hurt. He has a hard exterior and is just scared for something to happen to you. Be safe and do what makes you happy. also, every grown up needs recreation

Honestly, you need to tell your Dad to butt out of your life. You are a responsible grown man and have the right to do whatever you please! You should enjoy life and it sounds like you are! Please, just do what makes YOU happy. Good Luck!

Hes probably jealous because you didnt do things HIS WAY.

Remember he knows an older version of how you should be acting and what you should be doing with your life. Don't let him get to you. You're independent , employed, in good physical health and spirits and you enjoy life. Ignore him...maybe he is a little jealous...or possibly insecure...whatever it is ...it's his thing.
You keep doing what makes you happy

Good luck

Your dad seems more concerned about social yardsticks.

You need to grow up because you think being grown up is all about the money. It isn't. Do you do anything for anyone, but yourself? Why do you have so much free time? Do you live at home? Do you support a household? Do yo have plans for the future?

your still living at home aren't you?
I think the reason you have all this free time is just for that reason.
making good money does not make you mature.
Grow up move out pay some bills guarantee you won't be able to play as much

He's your father, the things you have chosen to do for fun are dangerous. He is just worried about you.

He is just concerned and doesn't see that your having fun, he sees the skateboarding, and tricks as childish, and you have to remember you are always going to be his child and in someways we never grow up to our parents. Don't take it personal, just say yes, day, your right and move on and do your skateboard tricks out of his sight - smile.

Try to explain to your father that because you work hard and are successful at what you do that you need time to do some things that are fun and that are also good for your physical well being. Assure him that you have trusted employees that can take care of your business when you are not there. Alao assure him that you are not putting yourself in danger (you are not putting yourself in danger?) and that you are saving and investing for your future (you are saving and investing for your future, aren't you?)

My son likes to do all the things you do,too-------one problem,he doesn't have a job and never keeps one when he gets one! Your Dad should be proud of you that you are being responsible and not worry about what you do for fun!

Talk to your dad, be a Man. Asking question like this over here proves you need to grow.

Money is not the problem. You are letting what your dad thinks affect you--Stop. Be the woman God made you to be. Your old dad could have ALZ. just humor him and know yourself. You will always be your daddy's girl, stop taking it personal. Enjoy your life i am proud of you--young prosperous woman.
God bless you and keep you.

As long as you pay taxes and don't wait for the first of the month to get a paycheck then you can act as young as you want. I'm 33 married with a child but i'm very responsible i take care of my family and i know when to not act retarded but most of the time i goof off and generally act like a kid. Cuz i figure whats the point in 'acting' old. I'll behave how i want to, i pay taxes and anyone who doesn't like the way i act can kiss my ***! =)

Sounds like your dad is just jealous.

As long as you are taking care of your responsibilities and doing well in life it's not immature to do the extra things that you do. Keep it up.

Happiness is the measure of success anyway - not money. Also happiness will help keep you younger longer and live a long life.

Because your dad has an image in his head and is steriotyping you because of the skateboard or rollerblades. He does NOT see a successful young man as someone who still is a very ACTIVE man! Yes you are ACTIVE! NOT childish! There are plenty of go-getter successful men who are very ACTIVE and if your dad can't accept that then he is judging you unfairly! Just ignore what he has to say and keep going as you are but prove him wrong by saving your money and buying your own house! Good luck!

It is all about control.

He sees you being successful, healthy, and having fun. He probably comes from a generation that viewed those activities as frivolous, dangerous, irresponsible, and generally wasteful. Even though you have slotted them into your lifestyle in a way that enhances your life rather than detracts from it.

This makes him jealous. He was raised on the idea that "responsibility" was a virtue. But all responsibility ever brought him was grief. Therefore virtue=grief. Consequently grief is to responsibility what fun is to "childish". You get the idea.

When he tells you to grow up, ask him about his health. Ask him about his hobbies and his loves. Ask him about the quality of his life. If he can't answer adequately just smile and go out and mountain-bike some.

You father will always be your father and may never understand your priorities. He might never understand how you can have fun and still be responsible and meet your obligations. But as long as he isn't sabotaging your life, just indulge him his misconception without anger.

If you are grown up, why do you care so much what he thinks.

just ignore it... do your own thing...

what you do is not illegal, not expensive, its not life threatening; your not in his way, he's not directly involved and your not bothering him...

yes, you're an adult and only 25, so you'll do what any other normal 25 year old does... your only young once... live it up dude...!!!

I collect sportcards and action figures, so you can imagine what I hear...

Being a mature adult isnt all about making money. He is telling you to grow up because you are taking risk that a normal 25 year old man wouldnt be. You need to be planning for your future and swimming and rock climbing and rollerskating isnt going to give you a secure future unless you become famous for it.