Has anyone stayed with a cheating husband for money?

We have been separated two years and I am not happy, but have two beautiful children. He is a self-centered man, but has a kind heart. I am just not 'in-love' anymore after all the deception. He owns a business and pays my bills, I own a business, too, which will pay my bills when our tourist season starts. Anyone else feel the hopelessness? I have worked hard all my life, but fear losing everything if I walk away for good. I have thought of getting a second job, but I really can't afford to be away from the kids any longer than I am. He works 7 days a week right now. Not really a question on advice, but just is anyone else going through the agony of staying for money?

oh, he says he and her broke up. (But he's lied before)

if you want to stay with him for money that's you but your kids pick up on things even when you think they don't know, you don't want someone to do your kids the way he's doing you.

I stayed with my x too long just because of financial needs, I finally worked up the nerve to leave over 2 years ago. it's been really tough but I don't regret it. Good Luck!!! some people may give you flack about it but when you have children, you have to be able to care for them.

its not worth the money to stay with anyone, a man or a woman who cheats

no way... yakhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

i think its not of a matter to be answered her dear friend i think its something to really give a good care and think more before any step u can be sorry for in the futuer .the kids are the big sub that u need to think carefully and the last thing is just dont be selfish when u think about it .

Its a tricky one but you should not stay in a relationship if you are not happy anymore-
you should not stay just for financial reasons, he should contribute to the children though.

Divorce is ugly, but you need to move on. Money will come and I am sure if you get the divorce while you are still getting along, you can get enough from him to make it through. Don't think it doesn't hurt your children to see you unhappy. How can a self-centered man, have a kind heart? Kind heart towards himself? Confusing. Make the move. That way you and your children can start to heal. Good luck.

It鈥檚 a tough situation. When you are able to leave mentally you will. I left my first hubby after not being in love and beggin him to go into counseling for 1 year after we had out 2nd child. At that time i was a stay at home mom with a 1 year old and a 3 year old and was scared to death to be on my own for the money and just knowing that the stability was there. You may think that you cant afford to be on your own but its funny how you can do things if you have to. I got a better job asked family to help out with free babysitting until they were in school full time. If you are staying for the kids please understand that children hear and see much more than we think, even if you aren鈥檛 saying you are unhappy and not in love they feel it. When i left i did it for the kids, it sounds strange but its true, i couldn鈥檛 leave for me but i could for them. They knew i was unhappy and sad and i wanted them to see a happy mama as well as seeing a healthy relationship instead of one where i was "stuck". I wanted my daughter to know she deserved to be loved and happy with her man and how could she if she saw her mother unhappy. It was the best for all of us - i am still friends with my ex husband, i am re married to a wonderful man that my children absolutely love and they get to see me happy and in love. They also get to see me being loved and respected from a man and that is very important.

my married man wife is staying for his money!

i'm 21 and i'm had a affair with a 55 year old man... he wife is 11 years younger then him and she is staying for the money and kids who are 18 and 21

Yes stayed with wife...for the children sake not money.

(Ecomonic refugee...No but Emotional rafugee..Yes)

He may have broken up with her. But did he say why it happened?
Some men just grow out of the cheating lifestyle. Others get old and tired. Others gets slapped in the face a lot after awhile.
You may be 'out of love' with him but you two could try again. There are ups and downs with or without cheating. Your kids are the glue that holds you two together.

As long as you are getting money to live with him, why not live with him? If you leave, the other woman has won his money as well as the rest of his money that he will earn in the future. Hang on and let him pay the bills, you deserve it and you will not find it easy to exist on your own if you end up with nothing after a divorce. He is not working 7 days a week, because he is spending time and money on this woman also. You have to make up your mind and decide whether you can put up with this nonsense, and if I were you and you have children involved, I would hang on and let him do as he pleases and take his lousy money with a smile. Be careful, don't let the other woman walk away with everything you want and need.

unfortunately yes.

No, but my ex cheater stayed with me for the money. I had to get rid of him just as fast as I could, and six years later, as he lives in a homeless shelter and I live in my 4 bedroom home, he still wants to come back. I think not.

You said he has a kind heart.
Take that into consideration when you decide what to do.
You are not asking for advice so I will just say I have never been in that situation.

money is not the answer but yes i have found myself living and doing certain things in my marriage because i do not want to do without. you got to do what you got to do and if the money is a priority than so be it. but in the meantime i would get some legal advice so you are prepared for the future. chances are good the other woman is just waiting to be in your position and have a little money too. play your cards right so you don't loose out. please sister see a lawyer.

You dont have to live this way and for a change he can work 2 jobs to take care of you and your kids. Alimoney and child support. Not to mention based on adultry you have it all in the bag. Get a lawyer and start doing the things you want to do. He can pay for both the lawyers. If there is nothing there and the kids see your unhappiness is that really healthy too? You dont have to stay for the money. You can get the money and be happy. Let him fret for a while sound to me like you have taken more then you deserve from this cheater.Its not worth it my mother did it more than once and realized it did more damage then good. Why live in agony, you only live once.

No, money is not happiness

Yes. Have been married for 15 years, but unhappy. Had to leave my hometown to marry. Husband didn't want me to work. Now I'm very dependent on him and don't know how to get back out into the working field. Have two wonderful kids in the young teen years. Currently I'm looking into divorce or separation. Kids are aware of marital problems also. Have stayed for money too long and don't care to do this any longer. Yes it is a very agonizing situation.

Some people make money their god.Money is not a reason to stay with someone.

NO.

At times do you feel happy?
I used to be poor as dirt and my now husband married me and put me in a new bmw plus gives my son everything.

I stay for financial reason but not only for that. I care for him. For someone to love me enough to not care I have no college degree and he doesn't judge me though he has a huge company and makes very well to say the least.

I have come across the thought of if we weren't together but if that were to happen it would not be because of me! To have financial stability and also a person to care for me are two very nice things to have in the world we live in.

I don't know how I would feel about the cheating. I guess what really makes me care for my man isn't the fact he is nice looking and rich but that he only loves me.. That is the factor that makes you feel special and stand out from others.

NO money is not worth the STD I may get or the heart ache I want to be happy and money does not make that.

divorce him and take him to the cleaners the dirty dying dog!

He is a good man, a good provider, and dependable so don't sweat the small stuff. Unlike men, women excel at sneaky sex, so as long as you are careful and don't set a pattern, you can find younger, sexier, and better looking lovers and your husband will never suspect.

I have heard of marriages like yours turning around. I hope this will happen for you. I feel your pain, because I watch my sister go through a bad marriage. I picked late in life for a mate and he is a very wonderful and carrying husband his needs are only to care over me.

So I feel badly when I hear there are man not treat their wives with repect and concern and love. I am not sure if you read the bible, but men are commanded to love their wives. They should love you like Christ loves the church.

Let's you and I start praying for him. I know you can not see him changing - your hurt in is deep and great. If we can start with you... he will most likely come to be a man you can not live without. You may think me insane if you like, I have not been in your place; but I have seen Miracles happen - and you may just get one.

The first thing you must do for your self, and only for your self, is forgive him. That forgiveness will set you free, it does not mean you aggree with what he is doing... it just means you are setting your self free from the pain of worrying over his behavior. You can not change him, your hated can not change him, but believe me your forgivness and love just may.

So, let's start with you, I'll be praying for you - if you are a believe are not. I'll will be praying that GOD start a wonderful miracle in momtion in your life and in your home.

You could also start - by just reading one bible verse a day, read the book of John in the bible. Check out Proverbs their is one for everyday of the week for every month, and is good and wise advise for life it's self. The book is alive with wisdom.

Staying with the man is not a bad thing, you start and get yourself happy - he does not have to be the person that makes you happy - you make yourself happy by letting go and letting GOD. God is so much better at taking care of dead best husbands anyway.

Love in Christ,
You have a friend in me - I will pray daily for you.

Psalms Chapter 120
Pss.120
[1] In my distress I cried unto the LORD, and he heard me.
[2] Deliver my soul, O LORD, from lying lips, and from a deceitful tongue.

Psalms Chapter 1
[1] Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.
[2] But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.
[3] And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.
[4] The ungodly are not so: but are like the chaff which the wind driveth away.
[5] Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous.
[6] For the LORD knoweth the way of the righteous: but the way of the ungodly shall perish.

I stayed because he was our only provider he to owned his own business and I helped do all the paper work, payroll , scheduling etc.. from our home. we have four kids and I didn't believe for a second that I could make it with out him. been two years and Now I am on my own with these kids and working long hours away from them but it puts food on the table and a roof over their pretty lil heads ... you can move on just have to be strong and make it work for you. I don't even get childsupport but that will help you if you leave i am pursuing it soon my self.

Divorce him and get financial support and child support. That should help you out with he finances. I think a lot of women stay with men they don't want to for the finances. Make yourself happy by being single again and live your life for you and your children. You will get through it!!!!! Best wishes

Thats pretty shallow

Money is not a reason to get married or stay married. Marriage is about love and partnership. If you are no longer in love and no longer living life as partners then your marriage is already over.

Move on and stop expecting him to support you. He will have to pay child support and you will have to learn to support yourself.