Help, marriage may fall apart.?

I have been with my husband for 12 years. When we get along we get along great but when he is having one of those days, which recently are every other day, it's bad. I feel like I'm in a relationship with a 15 year old. He is used to me doing everything. I cook, mow, plant and weed garden, do all his paperwork for his court hearings, I file them at the court house and get all his investigative info to present his cases (Pro Se), I do his books for his business, invoicing, clean the house, take care of our daughter and his 3 children from a previous relationship (He Does Notta) and I even do some of the painting. Recently, I hurt my back and it's bad. I need $3,500 to get fixed through rejuvination center. He won't give it. He treats me like crap now that I can't do everything he want's me to do since I'm hurt. I feel like if I can't make him a dollar, I'm no good to him. What do I do? Leave, file hearing for house and kid? He doesn't even feed the dogs in 12 years. HELP!!!

I must face the truth and that is I'm the only one working this marriage and thanks for your comments. I have tried for years but it's just gotten out of control the last few months. Time to put the garbage to the curb.

He comes and goes as he pleases, spends what he wants and has many friends with no responsibilities. He just likes to be the "BOSS"!

I stay home, do everything, get no allowance. I even have to ask for $20 to get panties and he demands to know what it's for. HMMM! I have no friends because he has ran them all off and pushed my family away.

I think it's time to hit the road Jack!!! Thanks again. I'll wait for a day or two to pick best answer. Thanks again.

Is he suffering from depression? It sounds as though he was functioning really well for a long time and now is not able (mentally/emotionally) to do what he needs to do. If it's depression, it can be treated. If he's just turning in to and @ss and treating you bad, that's something else altogether.

Try to get him to see a doctor about possible depression. If he's unwilling to do so, you may have to let him know that you are his wife, not his slave/employee, and that if he is not willing or able to treat you with respect and dignity, that you may have to reconsider whether or not you will continue to be his wife. It sounds like he's a lawyer? He'll know immediately what that means, and by wording it they way I've suggested, you have not threatened him. (And that's the biggest threat.)

Good luck to you. I hope you're able to find some resolution.

Talk to him. Tell him that if he won't support you and treat you like he should (with you doing likewise), it can't work. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. If he's stubborn about it, talk to a counselor or religious leader (bishop, priest) with him.

well for 1 he should be doing something your not his mother make him do his own work damn if he is gonna treat you like that maybe you should find some one to treat you right let him know that your not gonna put up with and you will leave

advice is cheap,,how do you really feel inside?follow your gut,,my first was a bust after 12yrs,now 20 yrs into my second,,got a good one this time and it shows.you know how you feel,do what goes with the feeling

Leave him he doesn't know how to treat a lady your in a relationship your not in it to babysit him. Talk to him about it then leave his *** a man like him doesn't deserve you or a second chance LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE.

Jewel T

Get out!!! If you do everything and he doesn't appreciate it (which it sounds like he doesn't), you CAN find someone who appreciates you. You don't deserve to be treated this way. If he cared about you he would get you whatever treatment it takes to get you well whether you do anything for him or not. Get out!!!

You should tell him exactly what you told us. Don't give up on your marriage though! You don't want to waste 12 years of marriage, 4 kids & all your hard work because of his bad attitude that you BOTH need to work on to make things better. You need to find a way to make him see what you are going through, with 12 years of marriage, he will come around. Have faith in yourself, pray to God for things to get better at the same time do something about it. DIVINE INTERVENTION. good luck!