Struggling with depression, afraid to go to Dr, need meds, where else can I go?

If I am too anxious to go to the doctor, can I go to a mental health center and get an Rx for antidepressants? I used to be on them and life was great, then I lost my insurance and stopped taking them.

Fast forward a few years: I married someone wonderful, but I had to move 1000miles from family and friends. My husband is terrific but he is a workaholic and he travels a lot for business. I have a part time job and go to school, but I don't know ANYONE here.

It's a big city and I have been here for over a year, but I am in this weird social limbo of being married, yet child-free (by choice). I don't fit in with the single people, but I don't fit in with the parents, either.

I believe in excercise to combat depression, but I feel like I am too far in the hole now. I'm just too sad, tired and embarrassed to go outside.It's all I can do to get out of bed, shower, and put my face on every day. I'm too afraid to go to the doctor.

I've never been to this doctor before and I am supernervous about the physical workups she'll want to run on me as a new patient. I lie in bed at night thinking about what if they do a workup and find out my kidneys are failing or I need a liver transplant or I'm otherwise dying of something and I completely chicken out. But I NEED to do something, I cannot go on like this.

I have great insurance now, and I need help getting out of this pit I'm in, but I can't bring myself to go to a doctor I've never seen before.

Something about going to the health dept or mental health center seems far less threatening. Would they be able to help? I know I would have the courage/reasoning ability to go to my new PCP once I get 'balanced' out, but right now it is out of the question.

If this isn't possible, could I make an appointment with my old doctor next time I visit my old hometown and get my Rx renewed? Would a different state honor that Rx?

What to do?! Please Help!

Mokey, the best -- and easiest -- thing you can do right now is resume your exercise; even if it's just a fraction of what you used to do, it's more than what you're now doing, which is nothing.

Start small, and build on those small successes.

As for being afraid of seeking medical help: What are you afraid of? That you'll be denied meds that have proven to be effective? Or is there something else, like hospitalization?

What about an anonymous support group? Is that your speed?

What about something completely different, such as volunteering at an animal shelter, where you'll be helping such needy creatures who will show their appreciation, gratitude, and love instantly. Nothing beats the pure, authentic love of a cat or dog.

Be strong; be realistic (that is, don't set yourself up for disappointment), and be brave.

Luck, Mokey.

Mac: Thanks so much for the encouragement.

DJ B: I said right there in my question that I go to school full time and I also have a part time job. I guess you didn't even read it.

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I think you should talk with your husband and then find a doctor as soon as possible

sweetie, just go to the doctor..the meds work and if yo need them you need them. if you had an infection, you would take the meds right? depression is a physical problem. as for being in a new city...get involved...volunteer, join a group, get out there. the only person who can change your life is you!

You really need to see a doctor. I understand you are anxious, but they are the best suited to helping you right now. A psychiatrist can prescribe meds too, but you will need a referral from a family doctor. Maybe seek out a counsellor or therapist so you can understand what is making you nervous about doctors, but seeing one is what you need more than anything. Maybe if you are nervous, you could call their office and do a phone consult, but again, they will probably need to see you in order to assess your condition. If I were you, I'd schedule an appointment and go as soon as possible. Once you get there, tell the doctor you are anxious and had a hard time coming so they will be gentle with you.

I hate to get Godly on you and all, especially if you aren't into that, but even if you could bring yourself to the doctor, do you want to be on medications for the rest of your life? Do you want to be diagnosed with some, depression disorder and just accept that that is the way you are? Do you want life to be great without medicine? From personal experience, I can say that God is awesome when it comes to stuff like this. He can heal you, free you, whatever needs to be done so that your life can be great, and you won't suffer from depression, and you won't need to go to doctors and take medicines. Like I said, personal experience. All you've gotta do is just say if there is a God, I want to know you and I want rid of this crap! Best "medicine" you could possibly get. Have a good one!

I have anxiety problems and I hated seeing doctors. When I went to get help I hung up on a doctor cause i freaked out. You can go to a private psychiatrist, who is a therapist who can provide medicine. It doesn't feel like a doctor, basically its a therapist that perscribes medicine. Often times they aren't in offices, but in their own homes. I would look into that, its a safe environment and its just talking to some who wants to help. Its really difficult I know, I've often felt like I can't stop crying and getting through the day is a struggle. Medicine help with therapy and exercise and diet. Find someone to talk to and find a psychiatrist. But most importantly do whats right for you! Try maybe doing an activity in the area, somethign you like..Then you can get to know people. Meds will help, but they arent the only thing.

Believe it or not, you have already taken the first step in recovery. You have thinking about getting help. Now as hard as it is, take the next step, find a family doctor or if you already have one, go to see him/her. Explain what's been going on. He may be able to put you on medication himself, or refer you to a psychiatrist for medicine.
You probably are too far in the hole now to get yourself out, so let someone help you. There should be no reason for you to be embarrassed to go outside, but going outside is good for you. Please try very hard to go to the doctor. You deserve a better life.
God Bless You.

It sounds like you have a wonderful life besides having depression. Maybe you should start going to a church and talk to God. I find that talking to God whenver i'm down/sad always helps. And remember you're a wonderful person and your husband, family, friends loves you very much! Take care!

listen up for a sec

You may not fit in with people you have met but you dont have a kid so you can go out and enjoy your life a lil bit. what are you interested in? if your in to sports hang out at a sports bar some night and see if you can meet some women or men who like the same sport as you. if your nerdy like i am you might try hangin out at comic book shop. people like to go places there is stuff they like. if you go there your bound to meet people with common intrests as you. Try a coffee shop meet some people. dont worry about what people will think of you in the real world. you will only see most people once unless you look for them again. Just remember that some people have it worse than you. be thankful that your alive and go out and meet some people who are like you. you will make friends. if your seriously lookin for meds you dont have to go to a doctor for try takin a trip to our neighbors to the north. if your in northern us or you can smuggle depression meds in from mexico if your down south. id tell you some ways to get em in but its not exactly law abiding so my answer could get removed.

of course there are so many ways to go when feeling like this, but i hope you are talking to your husband freely. that being said you can do research on what foods increase your serotonin naturally like bananas and turkey. I have and still do purchase alot of things from www.nutrenergy.com there are a few items on there that could help, along with seeing a doctor, like seromel, to help with the lack of serotonin, gaba to help with any anxiety socially or otherwise. You should do the research before taking anything and maybe find someone in your area that is a psychologist instead of a psychiatrist. they will be more open to natural or alternative medicines. you shouldn't be too afriad of doctors psychologists cannot prescribe medications. none of this comes cheap though it's just the only thing i know you can buy without a prescription. good luck!

Yes you can go to a mental health center that's where I go. I was evaluated and put on medication until the best combination was found for me. Still go and see a nurse to monitor my meds and also see a Dr. There are services that can help pay for medications depends on where you live and what they offer. You have been through a big change and can be a trauma to some of us. I really understand about being in that hole (my god). Ive been bi-polar2 since a young adult, just no one knew what it was. Been on meds since 1994
You really need to see some one for yourself your health you will only get worse. You need help out of that hole, a push much easier said than done I know

It's hopless. Give it all up. You should tie your husband up and lock him in a trunk like the gimp from Pulp Fiction, that way you can fit in with the cool kids again, but still have the assurance that you're going to get laid on a regular basis because you're still married. Once you've done that, post a picture of yourself in the newspaper adertising your "gnass buffet." You will get all kinds of responses from weirdos all over the place, and when you start realizing how many people are so desperate they would pay to eat the butthole of a complete stranger, you may realize that you don't have it so bad after all. If that works, you can untie your husband. If not, just stick with the whole gimp thing. Not only is it a great game to play with your spouse, but it's an amazing conversational peice when a guy, bound and gagged and in leather, jumps out of the trunk you were using as a coffee table in the living room. Hope I helped!!

you've gotten some good suggestions so far.... check out the site below for some extra self-help techniques that complemented my therapy... I personally don't like meds... they may take some of the edge off but they can't cure anything... that still has to come from inside you... remind yourself what makes your heart smile, what makes your heart pound, what makes your blood zing and invite some of those things back into your life... exercise is wonderful... singing, painting, flying kites, feeding ducks in the park. Helping others is a marvelous way to help yourself - volunteer some time at your ASPCA or a senior citizens home

good luck on your journey

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Hey get off your arss and take care of yourself. No one should have to hold your hand in life. Your husband is out there working, why aren't you? Do you have a job? If so, you must meet people at work. If you aren't working, then maybe you should do some volunteer work in the community. But don't sit there and whine about how bad you feel. Do something about it. You don't combat depression on your own, you need help from a professional. Call your Dr tomorrow and make an appointment as soon as possible.

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