Has any one had there ex husband get custody of a child because you have been relocated out of state?

I am a stay at home mom. At the time of the court case I was running a part time business. My ex was awarded full custody of my now 8 year old son because he was born in IN. My husband's job moves us every 18-24 months. I have visitation. I now have my 3rd child on the way. I think my son should live with us, not his very over weight single dad. Is there any other mom out there that struggles with this. When we have him in the summers it is so hard because he is not used to sharing his time or not being in the center of attention. I love him so much it hurts.

Lol....Well to those who have been so tough, every thing you have said I have said to myself. And just because I said he is over weight dose not mean I think he is a bad dad. For 400 lbs he is pretty active with our son. I just wish he would think about our son when he thinks about his health. The worst thing I think he dose for our son is spoil him. I do have peace that my son is happy with his dad. He is doing well in school but all of this dose not ease the pain. I also have a very good relationship with my son. I have him in the summers and every spring break and also I travel to see him once a month. We speak on the phone every other day or so. I know this is the bed I made and am now lying in it. I was looking for another mom that I could share with. I know I can't be the only one.

My ex wasn't awarded custody but was granted permission to have our two son's over the school year and I get them over the summer. It hurts so bad sometimes I can't breath. As far as custody the papers state 50/50, but of course that's impossible in two different states. I hate to say, but let it be. The hurt will ease in time. It's costly to fight in court to get that ruling overturned. Spend that money on your son and other children and give the hurt to god. Life's not fair. Your (I'm sure) a great mom. Never forget that. The fact that you don't have your son as much as you want doesn't mean your a bad mother. Look at the plus side, your time with your son is QUALITY TIME. Parents who have their children all the time take that for granted. You and your son probably have so much love and respect for each other because of the time apart. I'd take quality time over quantity for life.

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good luck

yes when me and my husband sperated i move out of state he stayed in state so i had to give my kids back to him during the divorce it made me very made and i pulled out the big guns so to say i now have total custody he lost his parental rights i changed there names and all is well but i did have to go through it im sorry for your pain it is a bad situation.

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Just because your childs Dad is overweight doesnt mean he shouldnt have custoday. Thats a bad dig at him.

To answer your question, my friend (the father) got custody of his daughter when the mom moved out of state. Stability is best for a child and moving every 2 years or so is very difficult. Seems the judge had good reason and thought it was in your son's best interest. I am sure you miss him terribly

If you are moving that often, your ex- has every right to keep the child in a stable place. Just because he is "overweight and single" does not mean he is a bad father. He was awarded full custody for a reason, and it would take a lot of money and court time to change that. As your son gets older, he will not want to spend summers away from his "real" home, due to friends, summer job, etc.

He has a home town, and that is where he should stay. Your choice to marry someone who moves that often is not the child's fault, and both moving or a court battle will potentially ruin his self-esteem.

I know it is hard, but those are things to consider when you make decisions that change your life.

You made the choices you made all by yourself, nobody held a gun to your head, now you want to create chaos in your ex's life and your son's too just for your own selfishness,the comment on his weight shows you still have "issues" with him, you need to let your son grow up where his friends and schools are not subject him to a life of moving around alot as you stated and never having ''good lifelong friends'' You weren't thinking of your son when you entered a relationship that moves you all over, you were thinking of yourself or you would have choosen to be where you could have more of a relationship with your son.You gave that up, and now you want your cake and eat it too? Sorry to be so stern but you asked for it.

i feel for you! i divorced my husband and his "daddy" paid for his attorney...and paid a lot...anyhow... He got EVERYTHING. custody,house AND child support! He makes almost 3 times what i do and gets 1/2 of that! My mom lives in his house (basement apt) and has to help him with the kids (2) when I do not have them. He is an idiot. I struggle with this daily. My kids (9 and 5) want to be with me. I live with a friend because i cant even afford my own apartment. Keep your chin up. You are not alone!!