Would you tell in this situation?

Ok so I am a teacher at a daycare center. We have a family there that has two VERY young children. Mom and dad are a young couple but they are together. Yesterday the youngest was sick. Now last week the older one was sick so the mom kind of knew it might be coming. As the day went on the baby just got sicker and we ended up calling mom. I called mom to let her know that he needed to be picked up and left a message on her phone. Then I called dad. Well a girl answered dads phone. When I asked for him she seemed upset that another women was calling him and said "This is his girlfriend what can I help you with" the thing is it wasnt the mom of his kids...and any doubts that I had that maybe just maybe it was the mom (people sound different on the phone) were confirmed when a couple minutes later mom called back in response to the message left for her.
So in this situation where it is strictly business-not friends-barely acquintences would you tell her that she is being cheated on?

I didnt ask what I should do...I just wanted to hear what others would do.
There is no question in my mind that I handled it the right way.

Personally, I wouldn't get involved in this mess. In the end it will somehow become "all your fault". I've been there, done that way too many times. I try to do something good for someone just because I like to help folks out, and in the end 90% of the time, I am a villan for my efforts. My advice to you this..... "It is good that you never spoke to this woman this day."

Live long, be well, prosper much.

you have no business other than the caring of that child- stay out of that quagmire - although it is unfortunate, it is none of your business

You need to take care of your end professionally and stay out of their personal business....MYOB....it is not your call to tell the mom someone else answered the phone. She may be her girlfriend too for all you know. Don't embarass yourself. Keep you mind on the kids and leave the parents alone to do their thing.

No, this is not your job to do this. You could get fired. Stay out of it.

No way no how. This is totally none of your business and you should stay out of it.

I WOULD SAY YEAH BECAUSE I WOULD WANT SOMEONE TO TELL ME. JUST CASUALLY BRING IT UP AND SAY: i CALLED AND YOU ANSWERED SCREAMING YOU ARE HIS GIRLFRIEND OR WHAT EVER AND SEE WHAT KIND OF REACTION YOU GET OUT OF HER

Absolutely not. If he's stupid enough to let his girlfriend answer his phone, she'll catch him on her own.

Not a chance - just look out for the kids, thats your job - your not a marriage counsellor

I would not tell but somehow insist on the mom calling him, because if it would have been her calling him at that time she would have told she was the gf and she would have said it was the wife, and it would have been out in the open. But, I would not say anything, even though its the right thingto do , its a little risky you only being their childrens day care teacher. Just dont come out with it if you do tell her, I would try something like when the mom picks them up. "I tried to call your husband, but some woman was a little rude to me on the phone".

No, its not your place. You need to concentrate on your job.

you should tell her...immediately....it will be painful but truth hurts...

I understand your dilemma but, I think in this case you should just keep out of it. The mother of the children will find out eventually, especially if he is that bold to bring another woman to his house like that. I would probably want to let her know too, but in that situation it's best to just let her find out in another way.

no, itis not your place to let her know. You only have a responcibility to the kids. Their personal life is their business. Besides you don't want to be drug into the middle of domestic problems unless you are very close to the family.

Unless it is causing problems with the children or you fear the children are in danger then you should leave it alone. You only need to worry about the children and if they are not being affected then I would definitely leave it alone.

never.just because it is the truth does not mean it needs to be said .

well really you should say anything. But you could always mention that you also left a message with the lady that answered you husbands phone. You don't have to say anything she said.

Not your place as a business. From a purely business standpoint you don't want to say anything. You would probably lose the patronage.

From a human standpoint, you would probably want to. Personally, I wouldn't take it to the wife. I'd let the husband know that the gig is up. If it got blown open to you, it's only a matter of time before it hits the fan with the wife. Let him make things right.

Not your business and it could turn on you. Say you tell her, she confronts him and say you told her. He says you want him and you are trying to break them up. They jointly decide the take the children out of your day care. They are still together and he's still cheating on her. What have you accomplished?

no, it is not your business to tell about a realtionship that is falling apart. Think about what would happen to your reputation at work when others find out you were the source? You will lose a lot of trust in those parents who trust you right now! Before you speak up think how "the stone in the pond, will ripple to the edge"

Certainly not. It's not your place to get involved in the personal lives of this couple. Your place is to provide care for their children when they are at the daycare center. Leave it at that. It may very well be that the young mother is already aware of the situation; telling her what happened when you phoned her husband may simply serve to embarrass her. Leave it alone.

you should not tell her the exact thing,tell her what happened with no jumping to conclusions ,it might be her or any relatives of him and then you are the one that will be in trouble.

Absolutely not. You need to maintain a professional distance from the situation. The wife may know about the girlfriend, for all you know. She may have a "friend" of her own. The point is, it isn't your business (and I mean this in the kindest way), you just need to worry about the children and whether or not they are being cared for. If you suspect anything is going on at home that is harmful to the children, you should then get involved. It is neither your place, nor your responsibility to advise one of the parents of the other's (possible) infidelity.

dont hurt her, leave her to fine out, save your neck.

No, it's not your place to tell. You don't want a situation like that to reflect on your job at the daycare.

Ask yourself if you'd want to know.
Tell her you need to check their numbers because when you called "that day" you got a woman's voice on his phone and then let her take it from there. When the number is verified a correct then she'll figure it out.

No i think you have no right to do so. No matter how good your intention is, its not your right to meddle in other's personal lives. You may end up loosing your job. I understand you as you feel sorry for the wife and specially the kids. But that's life, we dont have control of everything. :-D

this reminds me of a time when my husband was living, that I answered his cell phone and when asked who I was, jokingly I answered "his girlfriend". I would not get involved by telling the wife anything, just be there when she needs you.

yes i would tell her, i would want someone telling me. what she does with the information is her business. this is a tuff one cos there's children involved. at the end of the day you mite be blamed for causing problems but at least you know you did the right thing and if she doesnt see it that way, let her be blind.

YOUR PRIMARY CARE IS TO TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN AND AS YOU SAID THE MOM DID CALL , PLEASE PLEASE DON'T GO PUTTING YOUR NOSE IN WHERE IT IS NOT NEEDED YOU MIGHT CREATE MORE HARM THAN GOOD AND REMEMBER THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED HERE AND MOST OF THE TIME IT IS THE CHILDREN WHO SUFFERS THE MOST OKAY SO PLEASE KEEP YOUR NOSE OUT OF IT . HOW ARE YOU SO SURE THAT THE MAN IS CHEATING LEAVE WELL ENOUGH ALONE .

no. thats not your place. your a professional. be one. dont' get personal there. what would happen to the work environment if you crossed that boundry. would your company get sued for sticking your nose in someone elses business? if you were her friend and knew her on a personal level and didn't take care of the children during the day that might be different. even if you know her and are starting to get personal, its a conflict of interest. stay out of it if you want to avoid a possible law suit. if i were cheating and someone i dont know did that to me from a place were i was seeking that type of service, i would raise hell with your boss and see to it you had nothign to do with my kids after that. the confidence is broken then. if nothign were still done then i would pull my kids and sue for my money back. weather or not i was wrong to cheat or not. your personal feelings are not the issue

Really not.
If you were a friend or relative, I would say tell her. It pains me to say she shouldnt be told, as usually Im the first to say 'yes tell them'. In this case, however, you really need to keep a professional relationship with the family, which means its not up to you to tell her.

You might want to take dad aside and say 'your phone was answered by your girlfriend, does your wife know about her, I am only checking so I know not to say anything' then accompany it with a suitable glare when he admits to it. ok so this isnt quite so professional, but it might make you feel better.

Difficult to keep quiet, but you must. I wonder how many people will or wont agree with me...


EDIT: oooh many people agreee, so unusual. You didnt actually say what you did do in the end (which im assuming means you did nothing).