Should I leave my boyfriend because of porn and lies?

I know this will spark some debate, but please if you answer try to address the WHOLE issue, not just the porn part:
My boyfriend of 2 years (who is in his late 20's) owns his own business. As a result every friday night is spent in another town. I have recently found out that when he is at the hotel he spends most of the night watching porn...something that I refuse to watch and have told him from the beginning that I wouldn't tolerate it in our relationship. I understand that boys will be boys and porn "is a normal thing" for guys to watch. However, porn makes ME feel like I am not good enough for him or inadequate so I have asked him to give it up. He agreed, but just tonight I found another porn site. I am dissappointed that he is continually lying to me about the porn and disregarding my feelings. Should I stay or should I go? I feel like I have been disrespected.

to clarify: for those of you who keep thinking that he's just really horny all the time - we have an okay sex life, however he doesn't last long...AT ALL. and he's a one hit wonder...to put it nicely. I highly doubt that he's "addicted" to sex. Thanks for trying though.

Talk to him again, and tell him about your feelings. If he doesn't understand how it is making you feel, then dump his ***

He's probably just a really really really horny person and needs entertainment when your not with him. I wouldnt say its a bad thing that he watches porn so much but just talk to him first and ask him why does he watch it so much when he could just bang the hell out of you. I wouldnt leave him for that. And talk to him about why he's lying about it.

<3Linda

you have a right to be upset that your boyfriend lies to you continually, but i feel that you were wrong when you asked him to stop watching the porn. it is not up to your boyfriend to make YOU feel better about yourself. you put him in an impossible situation when you asked him to stop watching porn. i think, HE should leave you.

all guys watch and will continue to watch porn no matter what, it's a fact of life. it's not because you're not good enough but probably because he has a higher sex drive and needs some stimulation without bothering you all the time. So I think he's really doing it for you therefore you should not leave him because of this and i don't think this would really count as a lie...or at least not a big one sense he was only doing it for you in the first place

You had made it clear from the beginning that it was something you didnt want and he agreed. I think he has disrespected your trust. He will just keep doing it, if you cant handle this then it is time to end it, regardless of his age or job.

Sounds like he doesn't really care how you feel about the porn. And he will just keep doing it.
If you two can't agree and understand each other thats not good. He should respect what you think and atleast think try to do something about it.

Maybe he's a sex addict. It's a real disease with doctors and medicine and everything.

If he likes porn that much and you cant stand it...doesnt sound like he'll stop for you...that decision is up to you to make...either tolerate it or move on...

I would leave...I couldn't stand being lied to. I would find someone that would treat me better. If he lies about the porn he will lie about other things as well.

maybe you should give him porn videos of you?
you cant stop a guy from doing what he has to do..
at least this way he still giving pleasure to you :)

The lies show broken trust. It is over.

its ur choice
but it sounds like u should leave him.

I know how you are thinking. If you were good enough, he wouldn't need porn. But that prolly isn't the case!!! He might even use the tapes/sites to gather ideas on how to please you....I'm not saying he's right for lying to you sweetie....but maybe you should leave him, for a while. See if he gives it up when you're gone....If he does then maybe you made your point....

if you arent willing to chance your relationship, (which is FINE) then maybe you can call some specialist that deals with addictions or something....

It might be deeper than him disobeying your requests.

Porn is completely abnormal and a terrible habit to have in a relationship. For me, porn is a total deal-breaker. He needs to respect that you will NOT tolerate porn in your relationship. For him to look at porn is for him to completely disrespect you. How? Because apparently, you don't fulfill his every desire, and he has to turn to fake, big-breasted females who are the epitome of what is wrong with women. These girls in the magazines are daughters who took the wrong path. Does he want to see his daughter in those kinds of positions? It's disgusting. You have every right to be upset. Especially sine he has lied to you about this, and even when you told him this will not be tolerated.
I completely understand how porn makes you feel. It seems you probably are inadequate to him, compared to how 'perfect' those 'women' are in the magazines. You should definitely go. And don't be nice about it either. There are many men in the world who also feel that porn is a disgrace and completely disgusting. He is cheating on you by lusting after other women who are not YOU.

Leave him. Be strong. You don't need to put up with his crap. It's time to throw the trash to the curb and don't ever look back. You know what you deserve in your heart. You know what feels wrong in your heart. Follow it. Trust me. To stay with this man is a mistake.

Follow your heart.