Grooms do you have a Bridezilla?

If a Bride can't handle the stress of a wedding (which is only an extended prom)! Can she be trusted to manage the stress of being your wife and future mother of your children?
Especially those of us who own a business and have critical responsibilities. Will she distract you for providing for her or support the big picture for the future family to come?

It's a serious contemplation that needs to be addressed before you say I do....because if she's high maintenance she'll be saying "I won't" to all her roles in the family. Only true love and patience can correct high maintenance behavior. Are you ready for that?

Think about Men.

Maybe if she had a little help from you, she wouldn't be so stressed out! And, are you really comparing planning a wedding to daily family responsibilites, and work? Are you kidding me? Maybe if you got a little more involved you'd see why I'm laughing at you right now. The one thing I agree with you on is when you said something about "managing the stress of being your wife." No doubt will she need to be able to manage that well, being YOUR wife.

This really sounds like a Luckylittletruthseeker kind of question!

my guy said he wouldn't marry me if i turned bridezilla on him. i had to laugh bcse i am sooo not that sort of person to freak and spazz about nothing or little nothings

if a bride is stressing she needs to lean on her moh and bms and family more. there is nothing that says bear the burden alone and collapse under the pressure.
i think anyone who takes it on themselves, then knows they have taken on too much, then doesn't seek help is a fool

Girls have been planning their weddings since they were 6 years old. It's a big day for them and yes it can be a stressful time. This does not mean that the girl can't deal with stress and you are marrying a psycho.

First off, a wedding isn't and "extended prom". For some women it does just turn into a big part, but some people like big parties! Others don't. I do think that how a significant other reacts to stress should be considered, but really if you are marrying them you should know that already. Wedding are kind of special situations, it is easy to get caught up in it and to use it to escape from the bigger worries of the marriage. You should not be trying to "correct high maintenece behavior", either you look for a low maintenence girl or you love your high maintenece girl for her other qualities and work out how to deal with your issues.

ADDITION: If you are about to marry a bridezilla, you need to talk to her about your marriage concerns instead of making innacurate blanket statment to strangers online. If you are just worrying about a wedding with a person you haven't met yet, then you are kind of being a man-zilla trying to pick apart people you don't have to marry! There are women out there who see marriage as a commitment and will make fabulous mothers even if they have trouble with planning a wedding, and there are plenty of women who compeltely escape the traps of hearing "its your day" and still maintain their cool in this unique situation.

Yanno . . . these days marriage is a partnership.

The woman's career can be just as stressful as the man's career. They have equal responsibilities. The man's responsibilities to the children and the household are equal to the woman's responsibilities.

If the man is unwilling to do his fifty percent of the work with household and childcare, then I suggest that he not wed.

Men can be high maintenance too . . . . and many of them are, LOL. You cannot realistically put that all on one gender, Ophiuchus.

You wrote, "Only true love and patience can correct high maintenance behavior."

It is not the husband's place to "correct" his wife. She is an adult, not a child. The husband is not her father. He is her partner. If he cannot view/treat the relationship as a partnership, then I would strongly advise her to dump him.

Love is about love. Love is not about power and control. Viewing love in the marriage relationship as power and control are signs of a potential abuser.

I suggest you check out this site:
http://www.mcedv.org/domviolence/models....
Take special note of both the power & control wheel and the equality wheel.

The characteristics of healthy relationships are listed here:
http://www.mcedv.org/getinvolved/relatio...

Perhaps if your fiancee is stressed, maybe you are not helping her enough with the wedding planning???? Food for thought.

Firstly, a wedding is not an extended prom. A prom is a party, a bit of food and a celebration of the end of your school or college life, it is invariably organised by a teacher or lecturer or group of people, it is not organised by one woman. You hire a car and buy a dress and thats it for a prom. A wedding is a legal ceremony which requires a lot more thought and planning. Instead of a group of people partying, you have a bride and groom at the centre of everyones attention and a party to celebrate them. There are pressures from both families and expectations which pile on the pressure, to the one preson who should be enjoying herself....the bride. Most of all there is a budget of someone elses (usually brides parents) to stick to, you have the added complication of not wanting to let them down but not wanting to overspend either.
To be honest, if you have to ask if she can be trusted to manage, obviously without your support (as you don`t give any) then it isn`t her who isn`t fit to be the mother of your children, but you who are not fit to be the father of her child. marriage is a two way street and you need to offer support and encouragement, just as you would to colleagues. Critical responsibilities dont just stop at the business door...they are also needed at home. I think you need to look at the big picture, because with that attitude you don`t deserve the future family to come. Are you ready for that?

1. you should have been dating her long enough to know that she's high maintenance and difficult when the stress is on. That's all part of the dating process if you are dating for marriage...to get to know the person and decide if you really want to marry them BEFORE you ask.

2. if she turns into Bridezilla and this really is new for you--because she hid it well or you weren't paying attention or you haven't known her long, definitely rethink the marriage because she is showing her true colors right there.

high maintenance behavior is not for you to correct. It is part and parcel of who your chosen is and it is your responsibility to accept this about the person or move on. The only person who is responsible for correcting the high maintenance behavior is the person with the behavior if they notice that it is negatively affecting their life.

That is my feeling. If you can balance the whole wedding thing out and not burn out a gasket, you can get married