A guy that i'm seeing has a bratty 16 year old. is that grounds for break up?

she disrespected her father. the words that came out of this 16 year old was beyond my comprehension! i haven't heard of anything like that coming from a 16 year old girl and addressed to the father. i meddled. i know i shouldn't but i couldn't help it. i told her she was being disrespectful. and she turned on me. i screamed she screamed that it was none of my business. is this grounds to let go of the guy?

"Disrespectful" is such a subjective and loaded term that to throw it out like that to a teenager and a veritable stranger is tantamount to an attack and I can completely understand why she'd be offended.

Maybe your notion of respect isn't what she's been raised to perform. Maybe your parents were much more authoritarian and you've become similarly controlling and critical of others for imagined mistakes in etiquette such as lacking in fear of adults or lacking in submission to adults commands or lacking in blind obedience to whomever you imagine is in authority?

But you see, you're wrong. Authoritarianism is wrong. This country was founded on the principal that all men, women, and children deserve to be dealt with through reason, not with force. If you're expecting her to shut up and do as she's told and to cower in fear of her family then you're advocating fascism for all, and everyone knows that fascism is one of the most evil things in the world.

People get angry from time to time, especially when they're treated unfairly, or lack a basic understanding of how emotions work and aren't allowed to express those emotions until they explode, which is probably the case here. She obviously wants more freedom, obviously has issues that she wishes to resolve, but probably has no clue how to do so, and neither does her father. All you can do is not take it personally and forgive people for not being perfect, as long as they're trying to improve.

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No it is not. if you love the guy, u have tell him to tell his daughter behave..and if you really love him...u need to 'meddle' with some of his affairs

If your man is great, why should you deprive yourself from happiness? Stay on but stop interfering into areas which don't concern you if it is not directly affecting your relationship with him, his daughter is his problem to solve. Unless he is not worth it, ditch him and move on.