My adult son is disrespecting me?

My son started living with a woman about 5 years ago who does not want kids. Up until then he maintained a relationship with his son whom I have been raising since he was a baby. My son always loved his two kids but due to his own drug problem he could not take care for them. Then he met his girlfriend. Shes talked my son into moving over three thousand miles away assured sucess in controling his contact with his family.
About a month ago I found out my granddaughter was in foster care and put in an application to have her come live with me. I called him to let him know and he ranted about he did not ever want either of his kids(news to me) then his girlfriend got on the phone and told me it was none of my business about my grandkids. Then he called me at Christmas time when I was working 12 days in a row 12 hour shifts and left a message that he never wanted to talk to me again and to forget his number and address he refuses my calls or pleas to talk to me. Heartbroken

Just because you gave birth to him does not mean you have to make him part of your life. He has made his choice (good or bad) let him live with it. Should there be a drastic change in his attitude in the future, you can let him back in your life. For now cry and remember him as a child and move on with your own life.

I will definately pray for him. Let's hope he gets the message before he loses all the precious things he really does have in life. Good luck to you. Report It

Wow...well, just let him go. Easier said than done, I know. You have a chance to start anew by helping out your wonderful grandchildren. Blessings to you.

if he is disrespecting u then u should do a plan

That's his loss, not yours. He'll be sorry he ever said that when he gets older, but hopefully sooner he'll realize how big a gift you are to him and everyone else and call you back and apologize and let that girlfriend of his go. I hope it all works out for you, honestly with a heart, I hope it does.

time to move on
you know his deal. he sounds like a piece of work.. only dopes do dope
you have the grandkids to live for and as far as his hobag ex, she doesn;t want the kids either? another piece of garbage.
do the kids a favor and go get them, fight for them unless you cannot afford to.

You may well be heartbroken. But this is what you can get from an addict. Don't take it personally. I really admire you for braving your son's displeasure in order to do right by his children. Keep it up.

I don't think I'd call that disrespect. It's something much worse. He's severed all familial ties with his mother and children. That's what you have to address as legal guardian of the children. Consider getting some counseling on how to accept the situation and to raise the children.

it sounds like he needs to get over himself. dont worry, he'll get sick of this woman controlling him (one day, it may not be soon) but im sure he'll come around. however, you should applaud yourself for being so concerned and caring. if i were you, i would try to get the grand kids...... when he feels like an *** and changes his mind- he'll finally talk to you. he is going to feel more stupid when he finds out you took the initiative to take in his children when he didn't even have the decency to live up to his duties.

you have every right to get look after your granddaughter you are the only thing she have please take her in your house she does not need to be in foster care when she have a loving grandmother who wants her he is something else right now he is not thinking maybe he is doing drugs with that woman and if she could talk to you like that for no reason you don't need her around or him because he have no right to disrespect you like that just because you want to be there for your granddaughter be there for her she does not deserve your son as a father because he is not being there as a father or a son try to get your granddaughter with you forget about him he is grown your granddaughter needs you

honestly, this happened in my family.
you just need to try to move on, this dose not mean stop loving or thinking about him.
or even praying he comes back if that is something you do.
Every one needs their parents, and once he realizes that this woman is controlling him, he will need you, and all you need to do is wait and be there for him when he comes back. don't not talk to him cause he did so to you.

Give his a*s an intervention! He is seriously on drugs! Until then take care of the grandkids! My hart goes out to you! Take care and stay well, remember, whatever happens to him is NOT your fault, you need to stay as strong as you can to raise those kids, and remember they will always know who raised them! Good luck, and I say that is a WONDERFUL thing your doing for you grandkids!

Your son made his choice. Frankly, I'm sorry, but he's not father material. Get the kids, raise them. Hopefully they will turn out better.