My husband is considering switching branches from Air Force to Marines or Army. I'm really nervous about this.

He's a pilot flying C130's. He's not happy because he's always doing office work instead of doing what he loves which is actually "doing" something to help people. He's only being deployed 4 months at a time right now, which is wonderful because we have a 3 year old son and a 6 week old daughter. When he makes the switch they will be 5 and 2. He wants to either do infantry or fly helicopters which scares the hell out of me. He insists the worst part of the war will be over in 2 years and he won't be deployed for a year or longer at a time and he probably won't be doing anything dangerous but I can tell he's just saying that to ease my mind about things. A part of me thinks he's being selfish and putting his family last since he already has a good job that keeps him home with us, but on the other hand he has to do what his heart tells him to. I just don't know how to handle it. What do I even begin to do to cope or deal with it?

He's also putting in a lot of work without getting a lot of recognition which irritates him. He produced a computer program that organized the squadron 6 weeks before inspection and essentially saved them from failing inspection, then the award he would've been up for for doing it was given to 2 guys who planted 10-15 flowers in front of the squadron building in the shape of the numbers of their squadron.

First thank you for your husbands exemplary service. I understand your apprehensions about approving a switch. I would ask you to consider his feelings as a man and further as an American. He wishes to do something that he feels will bring him and his family great honor and pride. While I would argue that he is already doing that, if he feels slighted or that he could serve better elsewhere then I know exactly what he is feeling. Just a quick read of your details tells me he is a man of great conviction and takes pride in his job. Perhaps this compromise could suit you both: Tell him that you support his wanting to make a move under the circumstances. But draw the line at infantry. It goes without saying that it is by far the most dangerous position of any other. While there are risks in flying, far less so than infantry. He is already deploying and flying. Doing so for the corps or army is no different. So that would be my proposal. As a family I will support the switch to aviation of another branch. But for the sake of our family I have to draw the line at Infantry.
Its a sticky situation indeed. But support him in all his endeavors, be open and reach a mutual decision. Best of luck an again I thank him for his service

Well the chances of your husband being allowed in the Army or marines as an Infantry officer, are none at all.

Just not gonna happen, due to him being atleast a capt by now.

Helicopter slots would probally be available.

Helicopter crews are deployed for 15 months, just like everyone else in the Army.

Of course, changing services, will put him way behind his career group in either the Army or Marines.

So promotions aren't gonna come easy.

you should convince him not to unless he enjoys getting shot at and putting his life in danger. and he is selfish, bcuz what about the stress that puts on you? convince him..for your own sake.

Pray 4 you/

and i dont know why i got a thumbs down but w.e

i totally agree with j'adore too