I dont know what to do now??????

i like one guy he also loves me even he wants to marry me,but now the problem is this that family is not accepting him.they are saying that he is not right for me i will never be happy with him as till now he is not well settled .they are not letting me speak to him or see him.we used to work in same office but now he is in different branch.my parent have taken my cell so i couldn't talk to him.i dont know how to tell him that we cant see each other he will be shattered as i am right now, i dont know how he will react to this. need some suggestion.what to do ?

hi donna,

can i suggest u something...just one day sit with your parents for lunch or dinner ..just explain them how much u care him and try to convince them that u can stay happy with him..if posiible ask ur guy to come home for lunch as well and let him explin how he can take care of you in future...this is definitly a sensitive matter aand at this point most of the girls try to argue or fight with their parents....this can be solved only by talks...
i hope i have helped in some way..

love guru...:)

I could be wrong, but it sounds like your not even old enough to even be contemplating this. You are letting your parents dictate who you see and who you talk to. They took your cell phone. The only way the would have a right to do that is if you were living with them and they pay your cell phone bill. Otherwise, grow a gut and do what you feel regardless of what anyone says, because if you do marry him, you have to live with him, not your parents or anyone else.

how old are you

I think making A relation with a friend is not a problem but when it comes to marriage its important that he can support you financially as well..... So if you further have plans to get married its important for him to be successful........Or at least you have confidence in him as he has the capability to succeed.
More over yoUr parents are always ur well wishers......But its always your own decision.

Well when you finally grow up and can support yourself and pay your own way, then you can get your own cell phone. Until then you are a child and have no business thinking about getting married to ANYone.

What silly nonsense is this? Are you two adults or aren't you?

I notice you said that you "like" the guy. You did NOT say you loved him! How can you be "shattered?" You don't even love him.

I agree with your family. If he is not 'settled' as in "able to support himself" then neither of you is ready for marriage. And you have no business relying on him to support you financially. YOU also need to be "settled." So what if your parents took your cell phone? How can they do that unless it is really THEIR cell phone, not yours? Who's paying for it?

If you had really wanted to talk to this guy you would pick up the landline phone in the office and call him at his office. Stop whining and making excuses and acting like a little child. Who cares how he will react to this? The real question here is what do YOU want? Do you WANT to continue to see him or not? Your relationship with him is not the real issue here because you don't really have much of a relationship. Otherwise you would already have seen him.

First you need to become an adult; an empowered woman. As long as someone else is paying your bills (whether a relative, boyfriend, fiancee or ANYONE), then you are not a fully functioning, independent adult.

This is how it's done: first you get a good education (college), then you get a good-paying job (due to the education), then you get your own place, then you get married if you wish and only after all that do you think about procreating. To do this stuff in any other order is to take twice as long and is much harder.

You don't give your age but if you are out of school and working at a job, then it is time for you to grow up. Stop relying on your family to pay your bills. Get your own place and pay your own bills. Do that for at least two years and prove that you are capable and an adult. THEN, once you are an adult and know who you are, and if you LOVE someone (not think of him as simply a way out of your parent's house) will you be ready for marriage.

Do the young man a favor and do not pursue him. Don't string him along just for your own ego. You need to work on YOU.

The problem is not that your family is not accepting him.. the problem is that you like him instead of love him.. Do not use your family as the reason... Love would not allow that.. simply tell him the truth, which is you do not feel for him what he feels for you, and you need to stop seeing each other. Honesty.. just be honest..