What should I do about my marriage? Am I at fault here, or is he a bad man?

My husband is away in another country. I'm at home while we meet again in the next few weeks. He never calls me, and when I call him he rarely answers. He has a local number there with a VoIP service provider, so long distance charges are not a excuse. During the few times I get ahold of him on the phone he will hang up if I say something he doesn't like. Then he disconnects the phone and turns off his cell for hours (sometimes days) to block my calls. He is constantly telling me that if I don't go away from my family, we are going to end up divorced. He hates them and wishes I didn't have any contact with them. He was supposed to come home for a weekend and then we both were going back to the other country, but then one day he called all mad saying he had a previous engagement that he had forgotten about and that he couldn't come. He said the previous engagement is more important than I am. I get all sad because I feel terribly rejected and I wish he was better to me.

No, he is a bad man. Couples need to always work on a relationship, and he refuses. Turning off the phone and hanging up are cheap shots when you are so far apart. I would feel rejected, too. I would ask for him to explain his actions, explain why he does the things he does. Let him know that you need to have a husband that is locked into you and your marriage and your children (if you have any). This sounds like the beginning of a divorce, though.

It seems that you are doing terrible things to him,,at least this the way he sees it,,may be your family is pain in his nick and intruders to his private marriage with u..Stop letting your family into ur personal life with husband and try to be more understanding of what really bothers him,,you will see a change in him after .,.i am sure (take this advice from personal experience)

You need to leave him. He's rude and disrespcts you and tells you previous engagments are more important than you. This doesn't sound like a husband talking to his wife. Do youself a favor and find a man who appreciates you.

I think you need to take a good look at your relationship and decided if this is how you want to live for the rest of your life. Its hard to admit, but you have to do what makes you happy and no one else.

You guys have some issues, and the best way to deal with this is to try couple therapy. Seems like both of you need to learn better ways to communicate with each other.

Long distance relationships are always tough. It is up to both of you to work it out. If one is not cooperating then atleast let him know that you did your part.

I'm afraid his behavior is extremely evasive. It would not surprise me if he's hiding something and distracting you from it with his temper tantrums.

Dump him and get on with your life. Tell him you can't live while he keeps you waiting. He needs to grow up.

Definetly sounds like he wants out. I'd be careful, there probably is someone else.

He sounds like an immature child.

Ditch him and stick with your family.

Men who try to separate women from friends/family are the kind you have to beware of....

Have divorce papers all made up and serve his asss as soon as he shows up. Don't even allow him in the house!!

Find a new man who is in your country and who comes home every night

sounds like a lot of issues going on, just getting your side of the story, if the two of you where together more maybe you could work on things better

blocking, avoiding, hanging up on you.

He's a rat. Divorce him.

Is this how you want to be married?

How you answer this will guide you to your next steps.

It sounds like this guy is a loser. Sorry. That doesn't sound like love to me or anything close to it.

why are you two still married? there's no relationship tell him to stay in the other country and please file for divorce

This sounds very much like the love is gone. Why are you allowing yourself to be treated like that? His actions are telling you something. Be still and listen to your inner voice. What you hear will be painful, but you should not allow anyone to treat you that badly.

he sounds like a very controlling man and he wants you to chase him and basically grovel at his feet for forgiveness and keep you isolated from your family well don't do that.. instead of worrying how to pacify him just do you when you say something he don't like a hang up don't call or anything if you must try him back one time to make sure it wasn't a accident but if he don't answer then start treating him the same way and then when he comes home have the locks changed and have him served with divorce papers you deserve more than that and better and if his prevous engagement wasso much better then why didn't he marry her and since you don't want him then he is free togo and find him

You deserve better my dear. Kick that jerk to the curb and focus on your needs. Attend social events, spend time with good friends and begin dating. He has no obvious interest in you and his ego is too big to comprehend.

Take a nice warm bath, light the candles, add some scent in the water, play some Barry White music. Sip some nice wine and make this a ritual. Make time for yourself. Go buy something sexy. Next time you go out, wear a skirt with no underwear. Feel sexual and love yourself.

This man is living like a single bachelor man hes not married he wants out to live his life on his terms and wants marriage with you only on his terms to live his life.Been there done that with a bachelor man 37 years for 6 years got tired left last year.
HE IS A BAD MAN

you may be sad, but you clearly are not at fault. in reading your question it appears that quite simply he wants out of your marriage. the thing about your family is merely an excuse, not a reason, but seems that is all he is willing to provide you. his behavior with the phone, and in particular telling you that the prior engagement was more important than you are tells all. he is gone. file for your divorce. find someone who will treat you nicely. this guy won't. ever.

well maybe try not getting a hold of him so much. calling over and over again can be annoying to him. I know I've done it to my husband who is gone a lot in the military. But when he gets home, just sit down and ask wtf was up and why he acted like that. I guess be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. I dont know if you have acess, but maybe try getting into his email to make sure its not another woman or check his cell while hes in the shower. bad to say, but sometimes its what you have to do to have peace of mind. good luck and I hope things are better when he gets home. consider professional counseling as well. No one wants their marriage to end, usually. its a sad thing and I wish people would just stay together.