The reason my mom won't take me to church,?

here was my original question, http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...
and i asked her why she wouldn't take me.
she said that 'God has done nothing for her, so why should he go worship him?' She said she's mad at him for giving my daddy cancer and she wants nothing to do with him, and she's forbidding me of going. So now it's not a matter of me having no ride, but that I should trust God anymore. I've only been to one Church service in my life with one of my friends, so I don't really know that much. All I know is that God helps me through every day, and he has kept my dad alive this long. I'm not wrong, am I? Should I just go ahead and make it easier for the both of us and agree with my mom and stay away from God and Church? Please help.

Just to clear up someone's answer down there, my dad did not do anything sinful to get his cancer. He was working in a factory half of his life that didn't let him take any safety precautions. No one knew that the chemicals they worked with to safe OTHERS lives would harm theirs. So please, my father was one of the most Christian people would could ever meet. He did NOTHING to deserve something so horrible that ripped him away from his family.

God loves you. God didn't give your father cancer, and you know that. If you can't go to church, you can read your bible on your own, pray, and even worship/praise Him in your room. Being a Christian isn't just about going to church. It's about a relationship with God through His son Jesus. You are not wrong. Your mother is obviously having a hard time. Keep strong in your faith. God will be there for you!! And your mom will see the truth through the faith that you have. You can be a light for your family!! I will be praying for you and your family.

You don't have to go anywhere near a church to be religious. You make your own decisions about god and leave your mum to make hers. She sounds like she has been through a lot losing her husband - best not to argue about it with her - its not worth it in the end. Why do you keep on asking your mum to take you to church when she doesn't want to go ? If you want to pray or something then just do it by yourself.

It's your life, your faith and your choice. I urge you to make your own decision about it all. If you can't get to church and you really want to participate, read your Bible and really think about it.

(How old are you?)

I am an atheist so I certainly think you are wrong, but it is entirely your decision to make.

Well I totally agree with your mom however, she shouldn't stop you from going to church. My daughter is 14 and she goes to church with her friends, I take her there, I just won't go myself. Maybe a friend can give you a ride.

Edit: Please don't listen to KiraJenLove, that person obviously knows nothing about cancer or God for that matter. 'Satan' is NOT guiding your mom, that was a horrid thing to say.

Obey your mother and still keep your faith. She cannot stop you from praying or reading the Bible. Pray for your mother because she sounds like she is hurting badly. Also pray for your father for comfort during his illness. God can do miraculous things still even today. Do not lose hope.

You have a relationship with God - this is the MOST important thing. He will make sure to feed you spiritually and keep you in love and peace. You could pray to Him to reach your mom's heart or at least soften it to allow you to church. Ask Him to provide a way for you and in His time, He will. Keep relying on, and trusting in, Him and pray to Him when you need anything :)

I don't believe God would punish you for something you can't help. If you draw strength from your belief in God, you should keep that relationship going, even if you cannot go to church.

Your mom, she sounds like she's going through some tough times... give her time. She needs to work through this.

I know it's aweful painful for you and your Mom to lose your dad but you have to look at it in a different way. In reality there is no difference between dying now or later, we all die the difference is where you go afterward.

Your mother must love your father very much. I think that she has died inside because of this war within her. I hope that she chooses to love. Love is a daily walk that is not always easy.

You know you don't have to be in church to worship god. When my family lived in India for a couple of years my mom could not find a church so she worshiped god at home.

first, you don't need a church to believe in your god....second, if you feel you must go, find someone at school who attends church and ask if they will take you to theirs....problem solved.

no. Keep fighting. sneak into church if u have to. No offense but your mom is very stupid. If i were you, i would pray that god open her eyes, and i would try to find a bible and read it

You don麓t need a church to worship God. God knows your heart. Stay with that until you legally can decide over your own life.

Don't fight with your mother. She is hurting. Soon you will be old enough to do as you please.

Your mom is right, avoid God and church.

We should obey God rather than Man. If your mother is trying to keep you from going to church, go anyway. God will find a way to let you go.
She misunderstands the nature of sin and suffering on this planet, and blames God for things that she should be blaming Satan for.
Cancer is a tissue-specific disease that almost ALWAYS comes about due to some poor lifestyle choice. So, for example, if your father smoked all his life, then God didn't give him cancer, he gave it to himself.
God allows us Free Will to choose to do evil or good, but if we choose evil, he will not withhold the natural consequences.
Your mother's thinking has been guided by Satan, who hates both God and humanity. Your mother can do nothing for you, only drag you down into the pit with her. Please pray to the Lord to either get you out of that situation, or to change your mother's attitude. Move closer to God, and He'll move closer to you.

If you are looking for what God has said in a case like this, scripture say "Children obey your parents in the Lord." A great many people miss the "in the Lord" part of this verse. A child is to obey unless it is "out of the Lord", that is something that is not as God would direct. So going to church is something you should not give up on just because you mom says no. It is about you and God. It is about your relationship with Him.

I realize it is hard being a kid with no means and no way to get around. If you feel God is directing you to attend a church ask Him to help you get there. He can help. At the same time you can learn to know Him even if you can not make it to a chruch on a regular basis. Remember, being a Christian is about a relationship with Christ, not a relationship with a chruch of with the people in that chruch. If for now all you can do is seek Him in prayer and in His word that can be a great thing. But keep seeking Him. Don't give up on what He is calling you to become. You are going to have people your whole life that try to keep you from Him. I am in my late 30's and I still have family that pressure me to not follow God. But God is faithful and He will be there with you. Just keep seeking Him.

Absolutely not. If you want to go to church, go. You can always find a way. Your Mom is mad at God, and that happens a lot in situations where there are family members who are sick, who have died, etc.

Your Mom is questioning her Faith...but she shouldn't forbid you from going to church. And you should be saying to her that you are sorry she is hurting, but that she shouldn't tell you that you CAN'T go, because SHE doesn't want to.

In times of trouble (sick family, etc), these are the times we need God most. He is always there for you, and He is always there for her, she just has to let Him in.

Keep your faith hon...its the most important thing you'll do.

EDIT: I might add--my Mom passed away a year and a half ago. My parents had been married almost 40 years. Its been a very hard time for both of us, but Dad and I have both agreed that having our Faith has helped us go through this more than anything, and we can't understand how anyone could go through it without having Faith. I hope that your Mom learns to Love God again, and understands that its not her fault, and for whatever reason, your Dad was chosen for that. We never know the reasons now, but God has them.

Big hugs to you both.

Do NOT listen to your mother's anger with God. She is confused. She is being guided by wrong impressions. She is blaming the wrong source. She should be praying for your father's recovery.

May God continue to Bless you and your father. God has a "point" to make with you and your father. Trust Him. Pray every chance you get. You say you notice how God helps you each day. Good for you. The heart of a child is pure and the voice of the innocent is always heard first by God. He hears the cries of the afflicted and sooths the wounds of the faithful.

Keep the faith alive in your heart and pray together with your father. I will also pray for the both of you. Also, find a local Asian Market/Store and purchase MISO. Also find a book at the library to show you how to prepare MISO soup. It was used after Hiroshima to help treat the many bomb victims. Many recovered. MISO is a fermented paste that has properties that fight cancer cells by depriving them of the oxygen they need to grow. Have faith. Use MISO and Pray to God every chance you get.

well..first of all, just ignore anyone who is going to make the claim that your daddy got cancer because of sin....you will get alot of bad answers on here..this is yahoo. right now there is nothing you can do about going to church if your mother has forbid you to go, unless you are 18 and over. I'm assuming that you have access to internet..and maybe even are able to go to sites....since you are on here asking this question, so you could watch some sermons online,..like I suggested in your other question, which to me the best would be northpoint.org. as well as maybe a mature talk with her, that her beliefs are not necessarily yours and you don't think its fair for her to impose her beliefs on you, and that this is something you should be able to make a decision of on your own..but I know talks like that don't always work with parents....so all you can do is try, keep God in your heart, and when you are able to do so without needing her agreement, go to church if you still choose to. you don't have to "agree" with your mom, but you don't have to disobey her either, if she doesn't want you to go to church, then right now you don't have to, but you can pray to God, and read the bible, if you choose to. and in the end..unfortunately Jesus tells us many families will be torn apart by this exact situation, children of unbelieving parents, or parents of unbelieving children, etc....in reality..she has no right to tell you what to do when it comes to belief, but I wouldn't exactly say that to her. so keep God in your heart, Keep him close...you don't need a church building to do that..as you've said..you've only been to one service in your life, and you are still seeking him, so the building isn't so important, but keeing him in your heart and thoughts is important. and then when you are old enough to not need her permission..go. Good luck honey, and God bless. and you can always email me if you have any questions.

Hi Molly!

Curtis here...

I am truly sorry to here about your situation that you are going through at the moment with your Dad's battle with cancer, your Mom's lack of faith, and your conflict in trying to honor your parents wishes; while answering and building a relationship in regards to God's calling upon your life... This is a first for me in answering a blog; however, your question really stood out to me... So I hope that this little advice that I am offering will help you out.

I see that you are just beginning your journey with God/Christ in life; so please do not get so caught up in whether you should be attending church now or not... However, your actual focus at this time is learning and getting to know about the Lord and building a daily relationship w/Him (you do not have to go to church to do this)... I would suggest that you should read the four gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John) and Revelations to start your foundation in knowing Him better, until your able to handle the rest of the bible from start to finish...

In addition, get involved in a small study group w/your friends or ask question from someone that you know and trust who are also a believer that can help you to understand your new found faith; until you are able to go to a church... In addition, you guys can also pray together in regards to your situation and they can be a support for you during the hard times.

Perhaps you and your dad can pray and do bible study together; making this as great quality time for the two of you together... I am pretty sure that he has fears about the situation, so you can probably help him too. Maybe when your mother comes around and stops blaming God for your dad's illness, she will be willing to join in helping to build a strong foundation for you guys as a family unit... The key is building a relationship of your own w/Christ.

Secondly, continue to ask God to help your mother and soften her heart towards the situation at hand. God is not to blame for what is going on... His purpose and plan for our life is always right, even though we do not see it or believe that it is so... He will always take care of you. So continue to trust and have faith in Him no matter what.

If you need any more advice or help, please feel free to contact me at anytime. God's Love be w/U Always.

Curtis

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